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My wife claims that there was never an affair, although she is close friends with another guy. I think there was/is something emotionally between them or at last on her side of things. From what I gather, he is a spiritual person and I suspect that interfered with their ability to have a romantic relationship. I think that he is trying to maintain a friendship with her, and that she may be holding onto the hope I'll divorce her so she can date this guy.
She told him that I asked about the nature of their relationship and she said he kind of freaked out. She claims that he hasn't talked to her since she mentioned it to him. If given the opportunity, should I confront him about their relationship?
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I would have a friendly chat with him. It can't hurt anything and you can let him know how much his relationship with your W bothers you. When you say "spiritual" do you mean "moral?" I don't know what "spiritual" means.
How do they usually communicate? Can you do some investigating and find out what they are talking about?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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She claims that he hasn't talked to her since she mentioned it to him. If given the opportunity, should I confront him about their relationship? . If it be true, that he has not contacted her since, I think he got the picture, and realized it was not a good thing. If he is spiritually intune with God he realized this. I was talking to my H today about how such a thing can happen. It all comes down to not having enough conversation in your own marriage. I hope your W will see the danger of it also so it won't happen again. It's one thing to have a casual conversation, but when it becomes hours and hours daily, it's dangerous. Lady
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He goes to church and encouraged my wife, who's not a Christian, to go to church with him. She accepted and has been going to services and women’s bible study. I tried to gently welcome her to Christ a few times in the past but she claimed she felt too much pressure. A couple of my friends who work around her feel that she has had a crush on this guy, but don't think that there is a physical relationship. Of course, how would they know for certain?
They communicate by work email, work socials, and probably cell phone calls (I don't have access to records). If there was something sexual, I don't think that she's even be giving reconciliation a chance. I may be wrong, but most of my predictions have been correct, although I admit this one is kind of a stretch.
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Sounds fishy to me. I think another church might be in order. Good conversation turns easily into an E Affair. Trust me, I know.
Kimberly
D-Day May 14th
DS, age 6
Married 13 years
3rd Exposure this week. Preparing for Plan B
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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He goes to church and encouraged my wife, who's not a Christian, to go to church with him. She accepted and has been going to services and women’s bible study. I tried to gently welcome her to Christ a few times in the past but she claimed she felt too much pressure. A couple of my friends who work around her feel that she has had a crush on this guy, but don't think that there is a physical relationship. Of course, how would they know for certain?
They communicate by work email, work socials, and probably cell phone calls (I don't have access to records). If there was something sexual, I don't think that she's even be giving reconciliation a chance. I may be wrong, but most of my predictions have been correct, although I admit this one is kind of a stretch. I am not sure why you think there is nothing sexual, there very well could be; her desire to reconcile is not evidence that there is not. Do they work together? Is her cell phone a work cell phone, is that why you can't access the call log? Can you ask her for the call log?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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"However, she says she no longer has any love for me and is giving reconciliation a shot because she feels that she has no choice."
"If there was something sexual, I don't think that she's even be giving reconciliation a chance."
Is she giving "R" a chance? Or is she just going thru the motions to get you to give her a easier divorce??
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