Forgot to answer about counseling.

Yes, I continue to be counseled.

The weird thing is, my husband even tells me to listen to my pastors because they are right.

The pastor told me to focus on myself, do not get mad at him or react as this will push him further away.

My husband is in agreement.

Too weird!!!

Oh, I don't find that weird at all, that your H would agree with the pastor!

It sounds like your pastor has said not to hold your H to any standards or boundaries, let him do as he pleases and don't rock the boat. If I were your husband doing what your husband is doing, I would agree with that too!!!

He can get drunk in front of the kids, admit to using drugs, and carry on a blatant affair right under your nose...

Are you sure you are hearing EVERYTHING your pastor has to say???

His advice doesn't resound with me.

hsmomx3,
How are things going?

MSA

Hello!!!

I am hanging in there. He is acting like he took the pages right out of the midlife crisis handbook.

This OW has some shady things about her trust me. I got a call today that said her vehicle is either stolen or she has stolen plates on the car.

It is the most bizarre thing, honestly.

He is still home, but sleeping on the couch. Cried to our son in January one day saying he has made a mess of things, does not know how to end it with her, does not want to hurt her.....

As for the cell calls. She leaves him voicemessages all the time and he calls her back. It is like this 99% of the time.

I finally got the courage to ask him to move out in January but he refused to leave.

The kids and I are fine however but he just needs to get his you know what together and get rid of her. We are not sure what is really going on but I think she is into some weird stuff.