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Just a short summary I am ten month in since i found out about my H A.He had sex with a co worker five times.Of course it did take a while for it all to come out.At x-mas last yr i found a reciept for a five dollar gift.I ask about it and just got little info to were i thought i stopped something before it happened. Over the months after the OW H found out more came out.My H lied to cover up lies just to protect him mostly but also to keep me from hurting.
Well right from the begining of this coming out our lives changed for the better.We could never talk openly we never were able to say all those important things that needed to be said.It was like we were falling in love for the first time.See we were together since he was 14 and i was 15.We are now both 31.We have discovered so much about eachother.We are so much in love and make sure we say it so many times a day.We no longer have sex or quickies we make love.We do so much for eachother now.Well actully he has changed in so many great ways.
Heres my question.I forgave him in Aug.I still have my bad days and i do cry alot at times.He is great with helping me.On the up side i am so much in love and for the first time ever i can actully feel the love he has for me.I want to renew ours vows and would like new rings.If i am still getting upset and stilling crying does this mean i'm not ready.Sometimes i think it will help me.
Any Advice #1mom
Me BW 31
Him FWH 30
Married 13yrs
D-day 12/04
NC right away
New job
Some set backs due to whole truth coming out over a few months.Other wise great first and only recovery.
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I want to renew ours vows and would like new rings.If i am still getting upset and stilling crying does this mean i'm not ready.Sometimes i think it will help me. I think you may want to wait a minimum of 6 months of good solid recovery. My opinion only.
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Pepper,
What do you concider solid recovery? #1mom
Me BW 31
Him FWH 30
Married 13yrs
D-day 12/04
NC right away
New job
Some set backs due to whole truth coming out over a few months.Other wise great first and only recovery.
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