it has been five weeks since I discovered this and what I have been reading here is so classic of his words and behavior.

My husband has never done this sort of thing before and he is not the type to end something so abruptly. In other words, he is a weak person and he knows I am the strong person.

When he and I talk, it is about many different things. Lately, we have been talking about my getting a part time job because we have some bills that we need to pay (doesn't everybody?). He said with my skills I should be making some really good money. I asked him where he would be if I was making quite a bit of money. In other words, would he leave me and the kids. He said and has always maintained since I discovered the affair, that he would be right here.

Also, he talks as if we will always be together yet his A continues.

And, this woman has no intention of ending it even though she has been told that this is hurting the kids badly, he is not leaving me, and the kids nor are we divorcing.

He says he is praying about this and that sometimes things happen and we don't know why. He also says that sometimes the most horrible things can make us stronger because of the turmoil all of us are going thru.

Does this make sense to all of you?

Hi hsmomx3,
I've really been following your story, but if I can make a suggestion? Just continue your previous thread from prior days rather than starting a new thread for each new question or issue... it makes it really hard for newcomers or experienced MBers checking in on Just Found Out... to follow your story because it spans so many threads.
Just a suggestion...
NTL