It has been 1 year since I found out about my H affair... I was looking through his phone bill in August and noticed that a strange number was coming up... not on his phone, but on his bill. So I called the number and got v-mail and it was her the one he had an affair with.... so I printed out his bill and marked them down and confornted him... of course he was an A** about it and we fought... the next morning he said he was sorry and he doesn't know why he took her call and why he contuned to call her.. all but 1 of the calls was 1 min long the other on was 13 min, I was so hurt and angry.. no calls since that day.. she has blocked her number and called and he has not answered and I have and of course she says nothing.... So how come I still do not believe that he is not talking to her.... I was starting to trust him a little since all of this has happened and now I do not.... What do I do now he says he is not talking to her... do I believe it Well NO.... Also I put privacy manager on my home phone so she has to release her number to get through... no calls since then.... Help how do I spy anymore?

Go to Radio Shack or Wallmart and buy a voice activated Digital voice recorder and a ton of batteries. Do not buy the cassette type as they will not provide good enough audio over the car noise and radio and they make a big click sound when the tape runs out.

If he has a home office that may be a good target but more likely the best place is to hide the device in his car under the driver or passenger seat. Make certain it will not slide out on acceleration or deceleration by either blocking it in or tucking it up and under. You will likely get either pay phone conversations or conversations between him and a friend that may know the situation. If you do hear about the situation it may not be pretty. Prepare yourself to not take the fog babble personally.

Also never reveal your source of info as this may not be legal in your state. If caught, deny you did it and hide the receipts until your marriage is completely restored. A fogged out spouse may try to intimidate you with legal threats.

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Never reveal the source whether legal or not. No matter how you may trust him later. Otherwise you will have to start looking for yet another way to catch him. Let him think you see it in his eyes.

If you find out he saw OW, just say "how is she"? When he denies it, just say OK or "oh, I thought you were with her the other night" Don't get upset, just let him know you are on to him. You may have to make decisions based on what you know rather than what he will admit. Wish I could take that advice. You just have to trust yourself.

Mine had six suspicious contacts with women over the last three years, but I couldn't prove anything. This time I was more patient and caught him. He wants back in, but denies everything but the last. That one he has minimised. Not sure what I will do.