Remember that song by Barry Manilow, or maybe you guys are too young for that!!!
ANYHOW....I've been in a great place for several months...enjoying my kids, enjoying my work, feeling that God is blessing me and feeling content.
and then BOOM!!!! the longings hit, and I feel like I want male companionship. So I get to dreaming again about what it would be like to be loved and cherished....
But with 13 and 15 year old girls at home....i just don't feel like it's for me. I just have it in my head that i will wait 4 more years until they are all in college....and then I will begin a quest. I do want to marry again, but I feel sad that I will probably have to wait....
WHY am I writing this? I guess I just thought and wondered if anyone out there has any suggestions on how I'm going to make it through the next 4 years? I have prayed for God to take away this longing, and at times I am fine, and then sometimes it hits me how lonely I am.
Thanks for listening, friends.
KK

Kay - I hear ya - I have the 12 and 15 year old girls at home - and I just couldn't even begin to figure out where and when I am to fit in a man into my life - though I want something - something in my life is missing.... It is like I feel like my family isn't complete - As you know I have been going through this stuff well it seems forever... Struggling with the whole situation... I mean I question do I still love my ex or am I just plain lonely... The only one without a mate... and furthermore who would want me if he didn't you know??? Those kinds of things...the other night I came home from my parttime job at like 10:45 his car was next door at the neighbors - You know what I was upset that it was there - but not because they were together but because he has to throw it my face with no regard to my feelings... And I find out he called the girls and told them he was going next door to fix her door... he is a liar... Somehow - sometime we are gonna figure out that we are 100% better off without them and that special someone is gonna come into our lives and make this wait all the worth while.... At least I hope...Oh and I remember the song - quite well actually...

[color:"blue"]So sorry maw that the OW has to live next door - that has to be hard. Personally - I would move. Or figure out a way to make her move >:-) .

As a mother to an almost 16yo teen girl, and the girlfriend of a mother to three teens I have to confess that for both of us having a man in your life is not easy. It involves planning and not a little frustration when things go awry. Don't give up though because it is worth it for the right fella.

My teen is hardly ever even home - why should I sit home and be lonely when I could have a more satisfying life?

V. [/color]

I suggest that you give the situation completely over to God. Don't just pray for him to take the feelings away, maybe he is the one providing them. God in his infinite wisdom may have a man in mind for you while your children are still home. Or maybe he doesn't.

Turning over this part of your life completely to God is incredibly freeing. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't. You don't have to worry about it anymore. God's a smart guy... he'll do what's best for you if you let him.

That is soooooooo true!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Maw,
I'm so sorry for the things you are going through. We're going to make it, though. Don't give up!

V.
Yes, my teens are gone quite a bit, too, but I still feel like I need to focus on them right now.

Big Guy, I know you're right! And yes, God is smart, and knows what's best for us. I am trying to give it totally over to him. I want to be free of these feelings!

KK

I know what you mean....sometimes I SO long for someone who can be there for me. I have a 14yo D and a 12yo S, not to mention 2 cats and 1 dog. But no one is there for me.

Not when x is angry with me for nothing
Not when x is unkind to one of the children
Not when one of the children is struggling and I can't be the excellent mother I wish I was
Not when I am dealing with my d's sexual abuse that may rip my FOO apart
Not when I am frustrated with my 80 yo mother
Not when I am frustrated at work
Not when I am so physically or emotionally exhausted I can't be a good mom
Not when I am too tired to fix dinner
Not when we have too many places to go and only one car or driver
Not when I just want someone to hold me
Not anytime.

I do have my 80 yo mother. And she is healthy. And that is a blessing.

I do have the Diplomat....but he is in the Far Kingdom and usually accesible only by phone.

UhOh......here come those feelings.

[color:"red"]"Our day will come and we'll have everything
We'll know the joy falling in love can bring
Our days are magic because we'll always stay
In love this way....
Our day will come"[/color]