H took his off the night he dropped the bomb and left it in the very middle of his dresser top. How hurtful! I'm still wearing mine, 5 weeks into it. I've also been wearing H's grandmother's antique anniversary band on my right hand. I did take my wedding rings off last night before I went out when he was here to see if he would notice, but I don't think he cared. It sure felt weird walking around without them, though.

I get mixed feelings when I look at them. When I look at them sometimes, I feel hopeful about our future together. That surely he loved me enough to make those vows with me once, it can happen again. But then again, when I think about him galavanting around with OW while I'm here at the house with DD, I feel really stupid for wearing them when it obviously means absolutely nothing to him.

I kept mine on until I had another Dday after a false recovery. I kept them off for about a month while hubby got some counseling and I prepared to fly back home. I put them back on when I realized they were a symbol of MY commitment to my marriage, not my husband's.

WasLost71 quit wearing his right away, left it in the dresser drawer, same as SadMommy...

I wore mine through our entire first separation, though the minute he left I told him I was thinking of having it melted down into some type of pendant. That feeling didn't last. I wore them, first as a symbol that I wasn't giving up on our M, and second it would have further upset my girls to see me without it. My youngest asked me at bedtime one day, "Mommy, what will you do with your wedding ring if you and Daddy break up?" (she was 5 <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> )
I don't remember what I answered.

Then when he moved out again in January he removed his ring again, and after I filed for D in February I removed mine. I think I only had mine off about 3 weeks when we started counseling with Jennifer Chalmers and I put it back on. H had started wearing his again shortly after I filed for D, stating that he was going to be faithful to me from that point forward until we were divorced, even if I didn't care. That did mean something to me.

Never took mine off and don't have any plans to do so. My love for her is so strong that the ring will stay on till death or she divorces me.

Just about two weeks ago, my husband came home in the middle of the night, drunk and with NO wedding ring on, and proceeded to tell me that he has been taking it off every day when he leaves the house for the last month. Whata slap in the face. When I asked him why, he said because he felt hopeless and that I could never forgive the affair, and that he sometiems didn't even feel married. This is all while we are in counselinga nd trying to recover from his affair. The ring led to a huge blow-up, because here I have been wearing mine ever since we decided to try and "recover" the first time. After the argument, he left and two days later he filed for divorce. I am still wearing mine, and I have no plans to take them off until the D is final. I have never broken my vows, I don't believe in divorce, and I refuse to feel ashamed and like a failure, because I remained committed to this marriage, despite what he did. I know that he has not put it back on, but I haven't seen him since. I just know that it would make him feel guilty and sad and that he would be reminded that he failed me and our marriage and that he broke the vows he took before God. He also is following in the footsteps of his father- cheating, then leaving when the recovery is too hard and takes too long. In counseling he said his biggest fear was becoming his Dad, and that he never, ever got over the night his Dad left the house and never came back. Isn't that a funny way to not follow in his foot steps- by doing the exact same thing???

I never quit wearing mine during the day. I can't wear rings at night since my fingers swell. There have been a few days that I have forgotten to put them on in the morning and haven't gone back to get them. My ring is not fancy. Some of the small diamonds are yellow. I have always told by H that I would like a real emerald ring for our 10th anniversary. We just had our 9th. It would be a nice symbol of a new start.

WH quit wearing his years ago. On dday I got home before him. He had packed his stuff and had planned to leave that night. He had already carried his jewlry (a few nice pieces from his father) and other things over to MIL for safe keeping. The only piece of jewlry left in his jewlry box was his wedding ring. It was such a slap in the face but it showed me that he put more significance on the ring than I thought. When he decided to stay I asked him if he would start wearing his ring. He hasn't taken it off since then.