Hi, I hope I am posting in the right section. My husband and I have been married for 15 yrs, we dated 5 yrs, met when I was 16 he was 18. 13 1/2 yrs ago after our daughter was born a neighbor girl came by to see me. During her stay she mentioned that she had come to our house while I was at work one evening and that my husband invited her in. This girl was about 17 yrs old and had a reputation of sleeping around in the neighborhood. I immediately called my husband when she left and of course was very upset and pretty much thought they had an affair. My husband insisted they didn't and that nothing happened and that she stayed only a short while. I always ask him if nothing happened then why didn't he just tell me, he says because he knew I would be upset. I guess I have these doubts because he lied to me a few times when we were dating but always justified it by us being young. I wanted to believe him especially because he was 25 and she was 17, & we were kind of friends w/ her brother. Any how during all these yrs it has always been in the back of my mind of whether or not they had an affair or not. I don't ususally bring it up unless if we see her brother (which is not very often & have seen her twice since)but I guess seeing him brings if out of the back of my mind and it will start to bother me and I'll ask him about it again, even though I know they'll be the same answers and actually now he doesn't remember details. I have never in our 15 yrs suspected him of having an affair, he in a loving husband and father so should I just forget this and not bring it up anymore and just trust he's telling me the truth?

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I fear that he lied to me since he had before we were married because I feel that if nothing happened then he would have had no problem telling me. She never said if they did anything or not but she offered to watch our daughter while I talked to him because she knew I was upset, why would she do that if it was no big deal that she came over and nothing else happened? I said no of course, but he said she was probably trying to start something. Every time I see her brother I feel like they know something that I don't and maybe I was stupid and naive at the time. I know it's been a long time so I guess I should just believe and trust him. But how do you know if you can really believe & trust someone?

Read this thread how to spot deception

What is your marriage like NOW? If you have no reason to suspect an A NOW, why dwell on that incident and let it ruin what you have NOW?