I haven't been able to post since they switched the site - but I'm on a different computer, so I'm crossing my fingers!! Do you still have a 'public' email address?? I need to ask you something!! K? I miss you!!

H4F it's good to hear from you.

GC

Wow! H4F!

How ya?

-ol' 2long

AHHHA! Tempest finally got me fixed up. After all these months..I guess that'll teach me to ask for help instead of always thinking I can fix it myself!!!

Hi guys! I tried to get all caught up on what was going on sometime back in Aug. I just couldn't post! How's everything? Gray, are you divorced yet? Is she still living down the block? How about you, 2long? Since the OM announced he was getting married, has it gotten any better? I'll try to get caught up on reading sometime this week.

Where's Pepper??? I need to talk to her!!! I need her sage wisdom (and medical background). Heeeeere Pepper pepper pepper.....here girl!!

hi

hi hi

Can I email you? I don't have a hotmail addy anymore or I'd post it here. It's woman stuff - but I'll post the gory details here if you want <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

H4F, I'll try not to jack this thread. My divorce was final on 7/28, the day before our 11th anniversary. They still live in my neighborhood. Important financial issues remain unresolved, despite having been agreed upon and sworn to many months ago.

Head in the sand, maybe, but who knows?

I hope things are going well. I think about you all the time. Your support last year was like a life raft, I hope you know.

GC

Your DV sounds just about like my sister in laws. It was supposed to be final the DAY of their anniversary, and he's still waffling on all sorts of things he agreed to. Ugh.

I read on your thread you've got some new music, though? That sounds good! You're out living life, right??

We've got all sorts of things going on here - but THAT'S life in our world! We're getting sued for a horrible accident that happened last year. My H and his 2 brothers keep their heifers together (first time bred cows), and the naughty things busted loose and got out on a road. The bizarre thing is that it was so odd they didn't just go to the farm yard - they had to trek over a mile to get to the hwy! But they did - and a young girl (who had been drinking) came speeding along doing 80 (on a 50 mph road) and plowed in to 8 of them! It's unheard of. Anyway - her friend, a 15 year old, was a passenger. She didn't make it. It's very very sad. We all have insurance, so it's likely the settlement will be taken care of there. If not...well...I'm not worrying about the 'what ifs' until they're here. We lost all our possessions once and it didn't kill us - I'm sure we could do it again. I highly doubt that will be the outcome, however - since there is an awful lot of responsibility on the driver.

On a BETTER note. We bought our building! It's an old grocery store that was converted in to office space. We lost one renter already (UGH) so the bills are a little tighter than I thought they'd be - but we got it all painted up (outside and inside) and in just 10 short years it will be ours! It's kind of fun! My son is soooo funny. He understands that it's ours and that people pay us to have offices here. But he's a little confused on how that goes. He wanted to know why people don't pay us every time they come in the door!! LOL! Yea, I'm going to sit at the door with my hand out! Too cute.

I think I'm just going to type out my 'stuff' for Pepperband. You boys are just gonna have to shut your eyes! I'm dying to know what she thinks and trying to get an email address out of her is like pullin teeth!!! (Just kidding Pep!!!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

got your email addy - I'm editing the gory details out. Thanks pepper!!

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h4f:

"How about you, 2long? Since the OM announced he was getting married, has it gotten any better?"

Yeah, and no. Mostly yeah. And mostly I find that when I stay off the 4ums for a while, I can see the good better than when I don't.

Best thing is I can see the withdrawal finally going in a consistent direction. I'm still not sure there won't be an upset 2 the progress, but I don't worry over it so much anymore.

I'm getting old, and am really not interested or anxious 2 get in2 another relationship, assuming my M is on its last legs (but I don't think it is). I don't feel any urgency 2 do anything 2 force consequence-facing. I enjoy letting people figure [censored] out for themselves, and have plenty of my own [censored]-figuring 2 do anyway.

I'm "comfortable", I'm not in any "danger", my W isn't spending time on the phone or email 2 RM - she's focusing on her career. And *I* am focusing better at work. Enjoying it more. Enjoying my hobbies more. Planning for retirement (in 12 years!).

Sure, it'd be nice if we had ILYs around these parts. Nice if we were intimate once in a while. Nice if we were in MC 2gether. Right now, we're a family, and we're working on being friends again. We'll see what's next when it's next.

-ol' 2long

Well that's better than it was, then! It certainly does take plenty of time to truly heal old wounds - and yours are very very old!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> That didn't come out quite like it sounds - but it still fits!! hee hee