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Hi Ladies,

I'ts been a couple of months since I've posted.
To refresh your memory my story is just about the same as everyone else's. My H had an A with co-worker and became
pregnant with OC. H confessed and wanted to work things out. We decided on contact with OC which was going fine until reality set in for OW and she realized there would be no playing house with my H & OC. We were picking up OC everyother sunday and H felt that two sundays per month was not quality. He pays his CS on time and we both buy OC even
more on the side of that.When H asked OW could he have the weekend of fathers day she starts crying and saying OC is too young right now. Mind you, at the time OC was a year old and was familiar with my H and myself as well as our home. So my H took OW to court for visitation. OW tried to defame my H's character by accusing him of being violent and a heavy drinker. Of course it was all to keep him away from OC. She thought the courts would just take her word and deny him visitation. Well she thought wrong, not only did they give him every sunday but because of her false accusations it spurned the ACS dept to come to our home to make sure that we had a proper and stable environment which we weren't worried about at the least, but what she did'nt know was that they were coming to her house too <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />. Now take one guess who had several violations in her home <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />Not only could my H get visitation he could end up with temporary custody until OW gets her crap together. Her plan blew right up in her face.

Gotta go but I'll definitely continue this tomorrow.
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oh that is just fantastic. the karma bus just ran a few red lights in xOW town.
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This is a perfect example of what really happens. Many ow assume that everything will always go their way. They are sadly mistaken. This is why it is important to do things legally and be proactive with this. This ow may loose her child due to her game playing and only has herself to blame.

We all have to pay child support, that is a moot point to argue. However, the ow have a hard time realizing that if the father does want that child, he has just as much right as she. This is when things start falling apart, for a while. The ow will fight and scream how the baby is to young (to be with it's father?????). Or how they don't want the evil bw around (as if the bw is the one who created this mess). All of it is complete denial by ow who now realize that she has no say at all in what the couple will or will not do. If they want contact, they can have it and she has no say. The anger and shock when courts actually take the side of the father, his wife and family will really send her round the bend.

How dare her paint your husband as a violent drunk. She is obviously a danger to that child and it would be best if that child was raised in your home. Maybe if she spent more time actually being a real mother, and making her home a safe and nuturing place for her child, instead of her hounding and lying and whining about her own lot in life, she wouldn't be facing losing her child. The sludge of the Denial River is thick for this ow. Fool.

Remember the story of the ow who had her daughter taken from her cause she lied about the father? Tried to paint him as a pedophile??? Nice mother she was....not. Same thing here. If this ow is already starting these types of stories, imagine what is next? What lie will she try to ruin him with next? She is unfit.

It's amazing how these women think MM is peachy king and don't mind him being around HER and the OC yet when they want custody arrangements made suddenly he's violent and can't be trusted.

Don't they realize the courts will look at the fact the OW had no problem having the OC around his dad BEFORE she got dumped. They can see a woman scorned coming from a mile away, the courts are not stupid.

I'm glad you and your H stood your ground. More power to ya!! Don't let him get tired, keep fighting the good fight!

In my case the xOW had a lot of hope that she and H would be a family. She waited for almost 2 years. After we renewed our wedding vows she declared war. First she did not want him having any contact at all after we had contact for a whole year (We picked up and returned OC at daycare-I was present). She then took H off the list to get OC from daycare. We went to court and H was given extremely generous visitation that included overnights 2x per week. Within the year OC was living with us 50% of the time. I know she has to regret the day she let this thing go to court. She has had no control since. LOL

OW put road blocks up every step of the way. She said we did not have a fenced in front yard. She would grasp at anything. It did her no good.

Now OW is living over 1000 miles away and we have OC 80% of the time. Life could not be better.