I really need to meet his dealer. Gots to have some of those drugs

Hi Crazyhurt,

Once again, I'm sorry you felt insulted by my comments on Almost Gone's thread. I'm just curious about one thing: you mentioned that you would definately tell your husband if you had another man's child and were in the process of divorce as it would not be fair for your husband to have the financial burden of CS. However, in the event that you remain married, your husband would also be investing himself emotionally and financially into the child. Why do you feel that a person with whom you are about to end a relationship deserves more honesty than a person who is willing to dedicate himself to you and your children for the rest of his life?

In my opinion, such an action would have nothing to do with doing the right thing, and everything to do with maintaining your own comfort and security. Consequently, I see it as "morally bankrupt".

Curiosity, not to put words in Crazyhurts mouth but i think her comments were maybe a bit off the cuff. I think her comments were about protecting the BS whom she hoped might have been able to be shielded from the pain we all know only too well.

please keep in mind that crazyhurt is still very raw. she has not had long to come to grips with this situation and i am sure we can all appreicate how up and down we all have been during that time. I remember wishing my h had never told me. I remember longing to go back to my old life before he dropped his bomb. ignorance seemed like bliss.

anyway, my two cents worth now delivered, i shall but my nose out. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Carolyn

Thanks Carolyn,

You're absolutely right, I guess I am guilty of reacting in the same off-the-cuff manner without really taking into account Crazyhurt's situation and how her reaction might be influenced by what she is going through. It just goes to show that even in situations where you are absolutely certain that you are doing or saying the right thing, there are always other points of view that need to be considered.

Thanks again.

Thank you both for being understanding.

Carolyn: You hit it right on the head. I just wouldn't want to inflict the kind of pain that I am dealing with now on anyone else. I just don't think I could hurt another person like this.