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According to the Big Book, I will have to make amends to her at some point for the "wrongs" I have done to her . No jean you got it all wrong here....You don't need to make any ammends with her. She wronged you!! You have a right to be angry with her, just ask God to remove your resentment, so that doesn't kill you. You don't even have to accept what they have done to you, it's unacceptable!! This is where AA principles can get you mixed up.... They are sick, but that doesn't minimize the pain they have caused you, they must be accountable in some way. Love, Lady
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Is this having the courage to change the things I can or is this a self will run riot? SAving your marriage from a destructive affair and protecting your kids is hardly "self will run riot." C'mon, Jean, that is outlandish.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I did just find out that they are still together, when my 6yo asked me why I don't like Daddy's new friend?!? Oh great, now the kids have been dragged into his sleazy affair in his attempt to "normalize" it and give it some much undeserved respectibility. When will you stop this insanity, Jean, and start doing something to protect your family?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I have been told theat OW and OWH are just together until they get their green cards. . Oh, this doesn't sound good. Could it be an immigration problem also. Are OW and OWH both from another country? Love, Lady
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They are both Korean. A neutral third party did tell me that OWH dies not speak much english at all. I have finally gotten an online translator to work. I have my note, I am off. I am going to swing by a different Korean business to make sure I have the message translated correctly, it took several tries to get it to say what I wanted.
I am livid that he is trying to normalize this to the kids. Telling them that mommy won't let them meet his new friend is just a little more than I can stomach.
I hate this crap.
Me-41 BS (FWS) DH-41 WS (FBS) 2DD's- 10 and 12 Married 15 years Separated for 2 years after my A Reconciled for 1 year before his A D-day for his A 8/23/05 WH moved out 9/16/05 Divorce final 1/23/07 Affair ended or month or so later My Story
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Be brave, be strong, Jean. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Okay Jean, good job! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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I struck out this afternoon, I will go back tonight and try to catch him at home. If not, he will be at work Monday and I will go down there then. I found a nice little Korean lady to help me with my translated note, I had never met her before, I just walked into a dry cleaner and she helped me. She fixed my note to make sure that the affair part was clear-my note implied they were just friends.
This lady (complete stranger to me) has a daughter OW age. She told me to give note to OWH and let OW know that I will call immigrations if I ever here that she has spoken to my husband. Let OWH know that I will call immigrations, see if he can't cool her little jets.
Me-41 BS (FWS) DH-41 WS (FBS) 2DD's- 10 and 12 Married 15 years Separated for 2 years after my A Reconciled for 1 year before his A D-day for his A 8/23/05 WH moved out 9/16/05 Divorce final 1/23/07 Affair ended or month or so later My Story
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This lady (complete stranger to me) has a daughter OW age. She told me to give note to OWH and let OW know that I will call immigrations if I ever here that she has spoken to my husband. Let OWH know that I will call immigrations, see if he can't cool her little jets. You see these could be the type of immigrants that are looking for someone to marry so they can get a green card!!
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I am so Glad God put that lady right there for you today! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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