Hi everyone,

I know, that I need to write more to you guys, but it's so hard for me to open up to people, because before I met my husband I had all my feelings and thoughts locked inside. I come from a family, where you protend everything is great, because on my dad side, they are happy when something goes wrong, so I protend way to long, that our marriage is great until I couldn't take it anymore. I still live in the same appartment, where me and my husband had the fight, when he wanted to threw me out of the street, so every time I'm coming home I start shaking, getting anxious, depressed and now I start having diarrihea really bad. Why am I feeling that way and why am I scared to see my husband? a lot of times i think, that he doesn't deserve me, because it doesn't matter what I'm doing or saying, it's a not good enough or b it's wrong. Everyone is accusing me still seeing or talking to the other guy, but I'm not, because that would definelty not helping me in this situation. The biggest problem I have with my husband right now is, that everything has to get better immediately and I'm so scared every time we talk, that I didn't go online, that I didn't read enough in the book, I hate beeing pressured and that's how I feel right now, but I have a hard time telling him stuff like that, because then he starts crying and sees everything negative. I honestly don't know what to do or think anymore, I just wanna be happy and not hurting everyone around me. Please help me to get through this! Thanks so much for your support.

Oh my gosh!

We are here as a support group to help you. I know how you feel and I know how your husband feels.

GET HIM HERE, WE CAN HELP HIM!!!!!!!!!!

Tell him that there is a guy here who has been through EXACTLY what he is going through.


You both need help. I don't have enough details, but it sounds as if it is close to what is called DDay, discovery day. And the first few months after that are going to be very, very rough. But the two of you can get through it and come out the other side bigger and badder than ever if you want to.

Scout's honor. I have been where your husband is today and my wife has been where you are. We made it, so can you

Glad to see you are posting again. It will really help you, no matter how your situation turns out. Many people go on to have a much better marriage than before.

First you have to calm down a little and relax. It is good that you are not contacting the other man. That will only make everything much worse. Try to stay focused on taking care of you, and then working on your marriage.

You might not feel like it right now, lots of people don't. But we have a saying here to do your very best so that five years from now you can look back and be satisfied.

Have you discussed any of the things that bothered you about the marriage with your husband?

Yeah, you're here! Larry178, this is Ray3's wife!

Welcome, Renee! We ARE here to help you!

NTL

THANK YOU GUYS!!!! I hope she keeps posting.

Honey if you read this, just know that I LOVE YOU.

Renee, what are your thoughts on why the affair happened, and why did you end it?

NTL

Hi Renee & Ray,

Ray, Please read what your W is trying to tell you. She's put into words what I've been trying to say to you about putting all of this rebuilding and dealing with the A's on hold until you return... you need to listen to her!

Renee - I'm so glad that you're posting. Please talk with some of the fine ladies here that have been through what you're going through right now. They can really help you if you'll give them a chance! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
Semper Fi,
RIF

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Hey Renee - Just wanted to check in with you and see how you're doing this evening...

Thanks for your support people. Things have improved drastically in the last few days, mostly, i believe, because I backed off and stopped pressuring her. I hope she gets on here soon and answers your questions.

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Hey Renee - Haven't seen you around for a couple of days... just wanted to check in with you and see how you are doing... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />