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My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 6. I made a mistake before we were married, and cheated on her. It was a 1 time thing, and meant nothing. We weren't married but we were engaged and had 1 child. She found out right after we were married, but I lied about it, and she believed me. Somehow she heard about it again, and told me she had proof. So wanting to be honest with her, I told her the truth about what had happened. Now she wants a divorce. Does it matter that it was that long ago? She says that she can never forgive me, and want here of going to marriage counceling. Is there anything I can do to get my wife back. She says she loves me more than anything, and thats why it hurt her so bad. Someone please help.
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Hi First, read up on all the info on this website, not just the discussion forums. Start with Basic Concepts Then go to Q&A Articles paying special attention to Emotional Needs. Then go the the Articles section . You might want to post in the General Questions II forum since they get more traffic, especially over the weekend. I also have a few thoughts. 1) What is her reason for not going to marriage counseling? 2) How have you showed her that you've changed from the lying person you previously were? and 3) Is it possible she's involved with someone else, and that's why she's so easily ready to give up? Or are there more serious things in your story than you've said here? What else is going on in your relationship?
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I don't know why she want go to counceling. And yes I have told her time after time, that I am sorry and have been faithful the whole time we have been married, I just made a mistake that 1 night. I honestly do not think that there is anyone else. I know where she is almost always, and she has the kids all the time. But most importantly she says she dosen't want anyone else, and I believe her. As far as our relationship, its good its not great because I work second shift and we don't see each other as much as I would like. We dont't fight very often, we have a spat every now and then but thats about it. We love each other very much and I want to work through this. I hope that answered your questions.
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