I have been M for 7years and with him for a totally of 14 and now we're D. I want my H back but I'm not sure of how to go about doing it. I know that I smothered him and I made him feel like a kid. What I mean is I dogged him with words. I was the abuser and he was a awesome men, I just didn't know how to treat him. Anyway, he's been in a relationship now for the past 8-9 months. He has let me know he loves me and he says he can't tell me he doesn't want me or doesn't want to come home. But, for me this isn't enough and I'm ready gfor him to come home. What can I do to really draw his interest once again. I realize my mistakes and have gotten help but he doesn't know cause he doesn't give me a chance to show and prove. Some one told me that even tough I may think he's not wating me he really is watching. Can somebody any body helpl me???????????

I have absolutely no suggestions for you. These days I don't have a lot to say but I can tell you that this part of the board gets less action than other areas. You might try posting your question on Emotional Needs since they have a lot of traffic and some very good members who are very familiar with the principles of MB.