OK, I am sorta serious, because this Friday is her birthday. The big 40. At one time over a year ago she wanted a big blowout fun party. Now she doesn't want to do anything or go anywhere.

I know I need to get her something for her birthday. Any ideas. She is still is very much in the Fog and Babbles a good bit, but mostly just walks around with a gloomy face on and when she does comment, it is sarcasm usually about how she feels and that she has to suck it up so to speak.

What do you get a wife with that frame of mind for her birthday?

If you can't think of someting serious for me, humor at this point would be nice since I don't have much humor at the moment.



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A LONDON FOG raincoat...

Some condoms in XTRA SMALL...

A pair of tshirts for the lovebirds..that say "I'M WITH STUPID!"

I am sorry I am being silly.

Seriously, I'd bring the party indoors if she's not up to it...foggy or not...heck you can borrow the party if you'd like.

Send for mexican delivery or go pick it up. Make margaritas and add extra tequila...Do it up with a pinata (you could hide a cute set of earrings inside along with candy) and have balloons...

Get new Ricky Martin CD...such a romantic new song on the CD...I forget name of it but he made da peach lose her fuzz when listening to that song!

Have a fiesta. If the WS wants to come, no dice. If you W wants to come, let her in and have her join the fiesta!

JP,

Both post are great. I was LOL on the 1st one. I love the small condoms idea.

She also loves Mex. That might be a keeper.

Thanks for the pep.

At least it's just a birthday, I had the dubious honor of celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary recently. She is still very much in the fog. I figured that I had to be the bigger man and just be who I would have been all along. I made arrangements for us to go out to dinner and then to a play. I grabbed 10 red roses for her and gave them to her when I got home from work that day. Then we went to a nice restaurant and I asked our waiter for some help. I had bought a nice anniversary band for her and wanted to surprise her. I have always loved surprising her. I had him put it under a cup that was supposed to be covering whipped cream for desert. She loved the ring and at least she seems to always wear her wedding bands now. I know she has been showing it off, maybe even to him. Weird way of defining success?

Anyways, the highlight of the evenning interestingly enough was that she had a little too much wine and started talking. I'm not sure that talking about the other man on your 10th anniversary is a good thing but I actually enjoyed it. She doesn't like talking about things so for me I welcomed the chance to just talk.

Alas for her birthday which happenned to be the same day as D-Day (another wonderful day) I surprised her by getting her a TV for the kitchen, a place she used to spend time in. I ran the cable and had it all setup for her.

Alas, I do love surprising her. Then again, every time now may be her last.

Slash

That does make my situation seem easy. It makes you sad to hear what BS's go through. It almost isn't fair. Thanks for some perspective.

Hmmm - well what kind of things does your wife like? That is what I would give her. My WH was absolutely clueless when getting me things. After 10 years together, I couldn't believe some of the presents he got me.

For my last BD (before D-day) he bought me a moped. And it cost $600! I have absolutely no use for a moped.

I love plants, animals, jewelry, cooking, fishing, reading, and little wooden boxes. Never got anything from him relating to these things.

So I would carefully think about the things that she loves, and go from there.

Thanks believer,

I may look at the jewelry store for some earrings or something. Maybe even flowers. She loves Roses.

I would never get her a moped. Maybe a Harley, but never a moped. Just kidding.

Thanks for your reply.

If she loves roses, get a little silly. Go buy a rose bush to be planted in your yard as one more slight gesture of "permanence". Basically saying that you want to make what she loves (roses) a part of your everyday lives. Yeah, I know...cheesy. Hang a nice bracelet (opal or tourmaline are her birthstones, see if you can find a nice one) from one of the brances. Wrapped, of course. And dinner--a nice, quiet dinner. Don't forget individual roses--white and red ones combined signify unity, by the way!
Don't let the fog ruin her day...she'll remember this later, I betcha!

How about a lighthouse figurine. (I've seen some beautiful ones in nice Christian bookstores and high end gift shops-nothing cheap!) Tell her that you will always be there showing her the way home, that you're the safe spot in the storm and firmly set on dry ground. Tell her no matter how confused she is right now that she can always look to you for guidance. A bit corny but we women love romance and the symbolism. It will always be there to remind her how much you care for her.