Thank you to everyone who has given me advice. Without you guys I would be so lost and depressed.

I exposed my husband over the weekend to everyone including his boss. He is in Canada right now on a bussiness trip and she is also there. His mom called him and yelled at him after I told her. When he asked me "who knows" I told him everyone knows. I told him I would do anything to save my marriage. He was very upset and hung up. He called me twice today because he heard of the tunnel being shut down and wanted to make sure that I was going to get home to pick my son up from daycare in time. Not like he could do anything from Canada. I think he was finding reasons to call me. When he called I acted like things were normal and he said I am still mad so I said "ok I love you bye".

Just one thing, I told him everyone knows but chances are he would never suspect I told his boss. Should I tell him or let him find out when he returns back to his regular office Monday?

Me 26
H 28
child 6 yrs old
D day 3 Sept 05
Plan A 21 Sept 05
Married 7 almost 8 years

ahh, let him have a nice surprise when he goes into work on Monday. It will catch him off guard so he won't be able to make up a bs story.

You aren't acting like you feel guilty for exposing him, are you?

Well at first when he asked me I told him I felt bad, but then I called him and told him exactly what you said that I was sorry he was upset but I would do anything to save my marriage. I don't feel bad or guilty anymore, I feel good!

Thank You MelodyLane, I couldn't have done it without you.

Thanks duncad, you were very brave! The problem with showing inappropriate guilt is that he will just use it as weapon against you. But it sounds as if you have the right attitude about it. You did good! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I'm with Melody - let him be surprised. Did his boss say what he would do? I hope you asked him to help you in your fight for your marriage.

Of course, if WH asks, then you can tell him.

So he called me twice today prentending he was concerned if I was going to make it through traffic, or maybe it was to make him feel like he was needed, like I couldn't handle it on my own because normally I would call him for help, but this time I didn't.

So this is where we stand. Do I call him and tell him goodnight since that is one of his emotional neededs that I did not meet before, or do I wait till he calls me since he is still probably mad over the exposure?

dun, you are going to have to make those kinds of decisions using your own best judgement. Just think it through and you feel it would be good, then do it.