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#1503735 10/19/05 12:31 PM
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Re: Advice Needed
HARDHEAD1982 #1503736 10/19/05 12:44 PM
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Hi,

I am not one to give advice on this board , as I am up to neck in a mess of crap.

But I think you already know what you should do!

You are not the victim here, your husband is.

This group of people will give you some good adise , so you can take mine as you want , but listen to what the vet's of this program have to offer.

You should turn away from you brother in law and run as fast as you can in the other direction.

Nothing can be worth the loss of a 14 year marraige.

ME: 42
WW: 52
DD : 22
DS: 21
WW filed D: 8/20/09
Together 25 Years
Re: Advice Needed
Jeeping #1503737 10/19/05 05:11 PM
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Not only the loss of the marriage, but a wedge between 2 siblings. Sad.
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HARDHEAD1982 #1503738 10/20/05 08:19 AM
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InaBind,

I am a FWW and a pretty bad one. I say this so you know, what i am about to say is NOT meant to be judgemental but it IS meant to be a 2x4...

This is from what you wrote in another thread...

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if I was to get caught it would kill me & even though I know what I am doing is horrible but it would kill me to have him hurting like that & I would drop anything & everything to work it out as long as he would put forth also.

regarding this stmt... "I know what I am doing is horrible"
then.. [color:"red"] STOP [/color] for the sake of yourself, stop.

and this part... "it would kill me to have him hurting like that" open your eyes... he ALREADY is!!!

now when you can get rid of the part that say "as he would put forth also" you will be on to something.

you didn't really ask for any advice or help in your post, although you did ask what was going on. I can tell you that, you are DESTROYING yourself and your marriage.

please keep posting. miracles happen here, i am one of them.
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FinallyLrningT2H #1503739 10/20/05 08:34 AM
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You have a lot of work to do. A lot.

It's not about sex, it almost never is.

This happens too often, and now feelings are attached.

Is your BIL married?

You're not in love with your BIL, you just are knee deep in the fog that happens when two people enter into an A.

POST, READ..... READ HOW AFFAIRS START, and how they end.

Are you H and his brother close?

Please stop the behavior, and find out what YOU want to do. Until you really know what you want, we can't help guide you.
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betrayedinjersey #1503740 10/20/05 10:37 AM
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i hope you come back sometime

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