Wow, I just found this site. Wish I would have known about it a year ago. I could have used the advice. My Ex and I were married 8 1/2 years when I started sensing things, then seeing strange things. He always had lame excuses and when there was finally on ehe couldnt sweet talk his way out of he pulled "I am not happy, havent been happy for along time..there is nothing going on with her, we are just friends, I think we should separate" so my son and I left. Two weeks later went abck to get some things and low and behold she had set up shop in the house, taken over my bathroom with her things and they had a bottle of "lube" on the nightstand. I know I always use lube with my "friends" hmmmm... Oh well he still denied it but said he wanted a divorce. I told him to file because he should pay for it, he never did so finally in January I did. He drug his feet on everything (not because he changed his mind, that is just how he is) and our divorce was final in May. We finally sold the house, gave it away I guess I should say and he and her moved into an apartment.

That is my readers digest version.

So here I sit as a single mom trying to move on....it is so different to be single then it was 10 years ago. YIKES.

HI TX,
I'm pretty new here too. I found it just in time, my husband told me he wanted a divorce 2 1/2 months ago and I'm crushed. Does it ever get better? I have two children and I'm scared of moving from my house. Did you have to sell yours b/c of the divorce? I'm sure I don't want to sell I would not be able to afford buying in that area. My kids have all their friends in our neighborhood and I think it would hurt them immensely to have to leave. Not only that but new schools....horrible. Anyway I read your post and thought I'd write something, I know I like it when I get something back. Good luck.