Hello All. I need some advice on how to help my brother. My brother has been seeing this girl for about 7yrs now. They are not married but they have one son together. He will be 3 this Jan. Everyone is fed up with her bullsh*t and my brother isnt the type to take this. The only thing we are thinking is she is holding my nephew over his head which is wrong.
Everything in the beginning of their relationship was good we all liked her now we dont. My parents own the house where my brother and her live and they pay rent. Well last week my brother was going through his checkbook and noticed that 4 checks were missing and he asked her what happened to them. She said o ya i forgot to tell you. I wrote one out for 25 bucks for a birthday and he said what about the other 3? Well here she stole the money. We end up finding out that she is doing drugs and is addicted to them pretty bad. This past summer she entered drug rehab bc she was addicted to pain killers. She was there for about 4 days and said she wasnt on them no more. There has been a rapid weight loss. Last week my son wanted to play with my nephew so she brought him over. Well they got into something and had it all over my moms kitchen. My mom obviously yelled i was at the store. She said my lil nephew shook so hard bc all she does is scream and yell at him "im gunna beat your a$$" She NEVER has her kid. Once my brother goes to work she is off out spending usually all of his pay, screw the bills. We have also found out she is cheating on him too. My H cheated on me so i wouldnt want to lie about something like that to my brother. When i found out my H cheated on me she came up with this elaborate story about my H (bf at the time) was doing with this girl. I asked its a total lie. She LOVES to start trouble nobody can be happy, if things are calm you can look for her to try and start trouble. We just dont know how to come out and tell him that while he is at work she is out spending money on drugs and she has her son w/ her. Cant take him to her family bc they told her they wont watch him anymore. She is out dating other guys, she drove 45 mins away for a sippy cup!? Who does that? My mom is fed up with her and everyone else. The only thing we can think of is she is holding my nephew over his head. My mom cant throw her out either well thats what she thinks its all a big mess witha little boy in the middle. Any help would be great!