Got an interesting e-mail from STBXW this weekend and the below excerpt shows that, while she is getting "help", she has refused to accept responsibility for the destruction of our M.



I asked her to either COMMIT to the M or move out...she CHOSE TO LEAVE!...how is that BANISHING? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Somehow my anger at her f!@#ing three different men while I was the caregiver for HER daughter and her attempting to [email]F@#k[/email] three other men is a contributing factor to ending our M? There were NO anger issues in the M...her "view" of the past may be different, but I can do nothing about that. At NO time was there EVER a threat of physical menacing or violence. Was there a lot of yelling, screaming and crying...absolutely! Finding out the (alleged) love of my life did what she did tends to bring out the anger in most men. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

It's also interesting to note that I replied and asked WHAT I could have done differently that would have resulted in a recovering marriage...I received no answer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

She knows that I post here and she knows my "name", she may see this and I don't care...in fact I INVITE her to post ANY rebuttal that she may desire.

STBXW---At 0400 when you are ALONE and looking at the wreckage of your life, you KNOW that it is because of the things you CHOSE to do.

BTW, have you confessed and sought REAL forgiveness from H#2 for ALL that you did...even the things he doesn't know about? Somehow I don't think so...

There will be no further "updates" from me regarding this issue. There is ABSOLUTELY NO CHANCE that I would EVER consider ANY type of reconciliation with STBXW. I would rather spend the rest of my life ALONE than to spend one minute with her in an any type of R.

I am moving on with the intent of gaining the FINEST revenge possible...a life well-lived. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Consider my "storyline' closed...

It is so strange and so sad how the wayward mind works. Amazing how the fact that even though our WS are off F** someone else, have left the family and treated us generally like [email]cr@p[/email], they believe that WE have absolutely no reason to be angry.

It's happening to all of us. Your revenge plan is perfect.

As an agnostic, there are many "unknowables" out there.

Atoms are a theory...are they REALLY there
Is there a God...no one KNOWS if there is or not.

I would add yet another...

How can ANY WW/WH NOT see what they have done as destructive and evil?

I know...I am a FWH, it's horrible to know that I committed such evil, but it has made me a better person to OWN what I did and make REAL amends with those I wronged.

I CHOOSE not to furrow my brow one IOTA, comtemplating and trying to "know" that particular "unknowable.

WNB

Well, I'm pretty sure there's a God out there. I know that I have been spoken to and loved. I personally cannot buy into the things so many churches and religious folk bundle into the God figure. I don't think God is a "he". I think God wants us to be the best people we can. I don't think God cares about a lot of the small stuff that churches sweat about. I think the Bible has passed through so many hands and been translated and amended so many times through the years that I find it be difficult to believe that every word came directly from God. I suppose that makes me more spiritual than religious. I'm not a heretic or a bad person, I just have my own views.

I feel that somehow in the great plan of life, there is a reason for all of this. Maybe the purpose of my marriage was to produce and raise 3 great kids. All of the experience and pain I've gathered to this point has made me a better person. When and if my marriage ends, I'll do other things. Since WH left, I've been working with special needs kids. I believe I'm a positive affect in their lives. I probably wouldn't be doing it if WH was here.

I'm a big believer in Karma.