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#1504350 10/20/05 08:40 AM
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3 days ago, my wifes granpa was sick so she had to travel to another city. I picked up my daughter and took her home when my wife got home.

Well this is where it gets bad. I got her food, she sat down to eat and ask me "so you jacking off alot now hu?" I said I guess, well then she said "well you screwed this up so you cant have this" pointing to herself. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Well I took my son and her girlfriend to get his car, she told me you know she is seeing someone, I said great. So I called her and we talked I was really nice untill she said " you should be proud of me I have not slept with him yet" I was like HOLY CRAP, thanks for telling me. That started a HUGE fight.

Well later that night after the fight she calls me back and says "im such a who**, im so sorry for not being what you want." It was a mess. This woman is nuts.

So the next day I have a breakdown, cant stop crying, had to go to a hospital. They let me out after I talked to some people. Well during the interview my wife called, I let the guy interviewing me talk to her. He left the room and came back in and said "shes nuts dude"

So yesterday she called me and said "well we all know your nuts now and its all on paper." And she turned off my cell phone so I could not talk to my daughter.

What a ******.

I got a new phone because I have a friend who helped me out.

By the way I found out the divorce is not even filed yet. It in the cort records but not filed yet. So its another 6 to 8 months before this nightmare can end.

I do still love her but im just sick and tired of all her insanity. As you all know she was molested as a kid by her dad. She had an affair, a 3some with her best friend and her husband, slept with 4 other guys. Im just done!

She had become this "woman" now. She has changed so much over the last 5 months. I dont like this person, she used people, led me on for 5 months, and uses sex to get what she wants now.

So sad this has happend, im done beating myself up over this , this woman is insane now. Someday she may come out of this but I dont think she will, I feel sorry for the man she is seeing now, he has no clue what she really is. She cant even take a month off to see who she is or take time to understand what the ****** she has done.

Time to move on and fast, the woman I loved is gone, the girl I met 21 years ago is nowhere, the girl I fell for so fast and hard, the mom she used to be, the wife she used to be, all gone. In her place is a tattoed, "rocker chick" as she says. 37 year old rocker chick OMG.

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Hi Falcon,

A "tatooed rocker chick".... Yuck!

I don't know what to say, but it is baffling to see what
wayward spouses are turned over to after infidelity...total deception, insanity (fog). Only wish we could snap them out of it.

The whole character of my H was shattered, due to his infidelity and relapse. He is home and realizes it at this time, but it is really hard to see such a terrible change in him. We are trusting the Lord to get us through his recovery and mine. He told me last night he hates himself for what he did to his family. I don't want him to hate himself any longer, that will only be a stumbling block to any recovery.

If I were you, I would write your WW a letter telling her what a beautiful mother and wife she used to be.

then...

Do what is best for you now, Falcon.

Have you thought about Plan B? I don't think it is healthy for you to talk to her at this time. She isn't going to change anytime soon. So... to avoid her hurtful comments, you may have to get into another plan.

Lady

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Yea the rocker chick thing is YUK, tho the 2 tattos she has gotten are kinda of cute and sexy.\

Whats bad to is that the OM she had the affair with she has to see at work all the time and right now he hates her guts, and she him. I really think she does hate herself right now. I think her self asteam is very low now. But she wont get help at all. And im married to her for atlesat another 6 month.

Im not going to talk to her for along time. Its not worth it. If she calls in a few months and is almost normal ill talk to her for sure because I do love her still.

I hated to LB, but my god you can only take so much before you just loose it. I feel so sorry for this guy she is seeing now, he has no clue how messed up this woman really is. He sees a very sexy, cute woman, not the molested, teenager she really is now. Ill wait to write any type of letter, right now she hates my butt, and thats fine. Im not to thrilled with hers.

Sad thing is I could of gotten over the affair, but all this other crap has just kept mounting till you just cant take anymore.

Thanks for the support

Falcon


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