I am 32 years old and my wife informed me on Sunday that she wishes to end our marriage for good. We have had some issues over this summer and spent some time apart trying to decide what we need and want out of life. It is very difficult for me because in that time I realized that I love my wife for who she is and made a vow to love her unconditionally despite our difference in where we thought our marriage should be after 3 years. I really wanted to start a family, but she resisted. Unfortunately, in her time away, my wife determined that her only shot at happiness in life will be a life spent without me. We dated for six years and were married for three. I just feel like someone punched me in the stomach very hard and I just can't breathe. My wife is no longer in love with me and desires to move on. My whole world and future just turned upside down and although my friends have been there for me, they have no way of knowing how I am feeling. I just feel suddenly alone and scared of what the future will bring. Someone please tell me this gets easier....

It does get easier but not for a long long time...keep reading different threads here....You'll find lots of comfort, reassurance, and answers. Hang in there!

Yes. It does get easier.
So many of us in here - all of us I suppose - know exactly what it feels like to have our whole world and future just turned upside down, and to feel alone and scared of what the future will bring.
But it does get easier. Sometimes it feels like its not, but there are the 'good' moments. Hold on to those.
Many situations here are so different, mine is different from yours in some ways, but the feelings of horror and desperation are all the same.

Keep reading here. There are many stages that BS (betrayed spouses) go through. Almost all WS (wayward spouses) are the same. You have probably been hearing "I love you but I'm not in love with you" or "you don't make me happy" or the ever-popular, "we've drifted apart." Do you think your W is having an affair? Usually, a person doesn't give their spouse the "I need my space" or "I'm moving on" speech unless there's somebody else in the picture.

It's a lonely place to be. It's hard to talk to friends. Either we're embarrassed or in denial. Sometimes, our friends and family just don't understand or underestimate the seriousness of it.

I've been at this now for almost a year. At one week, I could barely breathe. I wasn't eating. I literally would have lost my head if it wasn't attached. I couldn't keep track of anything. Everything in my life was held together by a thread.

Secure your financial stuff. See if you can get counseling under your insurance. Most marriage counselors are crap. I can tell you that from experience but you can look for one. Be kind to yourself. Bite off less than you can chews. Don't make strange deadlines. Don't have a lot of expectations. Check out the stuff on Plan A. Look over at General Questions II. There's more traffic there.

Good luck. "Welcome" to the ranks.