I go from not wanting my wife back to wanting her back, to not knowing what i want. Yesterday was a big not wanting her back day. Today I want her back lol. Im a mess.

When is it to late? I know alot of you have gone thru alot and still made it work along time after it all started. Its been only 5 months for me. I know my wife is going thru alot of crap now. Her abuse, her not takeing time to learn who she is. She is jumping from one guy to another. The things she has done it is clear she is not "all there".

Its much more then the affair at this point, im really afraid she needs alot of theopy but she wont go. So now I have cutt off all contact with her. I have talked to her twice in 2 days about my daughter when she started asking me how I was I just I have to go, bye.

Funny her voice has changed from what it was a week ago. For some reason its much nicer. I know she has been talking and seeing someone for a bit. I know its not serious, but the woman cant take a month off lol.

I think ill see how this not talking to her goes, it does help me for sure. I dont her that voice I love so much. I dont see the woman I love so much. Alot of the pain has stoped this week with out contact.

So is this kinda like a Plan b without the affair part? Or when you are seperated and getting a divorce is seeing someone still an affair?

Falcon, I know excatly how you feel. Right now the bad days outnumber the good ones. I just keep telling myself this will turn around and it will. It takes 2 to repair a marraige and you're going it alone right now. No contact is probably best in your situation but i'm no professional so take it as it is....my opinion. as for your final question...I believe when married or seperated seeing someone else is an A.

Well lastnight my son was a bar/dinner. He was sitting outside and up comes this group of men and they start shooting. They missed him by 3 inches. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Well my wife called me this moring at 6:30 and we talk for a good 30 min before she went to work. She said im sorry I called but you know its our son, I said please you know you can call with something like this.

What my life has turned into in the last 6 months is amazing. Divorce, affairs, my sons GF having a abortion <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />, wife sleeping with other guys, me moving back in and back out, living in a tiny little hole, son getting shot at. OMFG. All in 6 months.

Can I go back a year and get a "do over" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

(((Falcon)))

I am so glad that your son is OK! It sorta puts something in perpsective doesn't it. Be well.

Yea really. It was close to him either being shot or killed. Funny no matter how much pain there is with my wife and I, when it comes to the kids we are hand in hand. That will never change. Maybe this might wake her up, maybe she will see its time to grow up and act her age, and im not just talking about us, for her own self. This is a place she has hung out at the last few months.

Grow up raise our daughter and worry about guys and other crap later, she so needs to get herself right.

Took my daughter home lastnight and saw my wife for the first time in a week, we walked outside and she started to talk to me. She had a bad day at work, she delivers babies and one was deliverd dead. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I could tell she needed to talk so I listend for a while, and then said goodbye. God I so wanted to hold her. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I could see how much pain she was in and there is nothing I could do about it. Why wont she realize that someone loves her and damnit come home to me.