Hi, confused:

I saw your post below and wondered what you had decided regarding your wedding.

I also wanted to write b/c your post struck a nerve w me (in a GOOD way!) You said that you forewent a bach party b/c you didn't think it was appropriate to have one last wild night before getting married.

I broke up with my last bf over this issue. He saw nothing wrong w adult men, whether engaged/married, whatever, patronizing sexually-oriented businesses (strip clubs) and I couldn't disagree more! Having a *clean* guys' night out before the wedding is a nice thing, but making it raunchy just strikes me as unloving and totally lacking in any kind of honor. I just wanted to post to say that I really respect men like you!

How old are you, btw? My ex was 35, old enough to know better. And too old to even DATE some of the women he'd pay to take their clothes off. It was heartbreaking for me to find out who he really was. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Best of luck -