I recently found out my wife was having an affair (2 weeks ago). She ended the affair and I am willing to give the marriage another try, but she says that she's not sure she can love me (in a romantic way) again because she's gotten so used to doing without it over the last few years. She thinks I'm a wonderful father and she "loves" me for the stability and comfort I bring to the family. Again, it's only been two weeks, are these normal feelings for her to have? Should I let time just pass before we decide the next step? Is there anything I should do now to help her through her feelings?

Wow, I feel your pain. I'm in the same spot. But my wife is telling me that she wants a seperation and or a divorce. She came clean, and told me but she also said she still had felings for him. I'm starting to find out she's being a bit les than honest right now. For me it's been almost 4 weeks since it was broken off and a bit over two since I found out. I pray it'll work out for ya'll. I'm still hoping for the best but I'm really planning for the worst, I'm going to confront her tonight and see if she comes clean. Good luck, it's gonna be tough but you will get through it. I hope for the best for you

You might want to post over on the GQII board. There is a lot more activity on that board and many of the experts monitor all those posts and can walk you through what you need to know. Do not make any committments or promises right now. Read Surviving an Affair on this site and the information on Plan A. Plan A is designed to do two things. First to make sure that the A ends. NC is essential. Secondly, to provide an environment where your WS can fall back in love with you. Those that have been successful in rebuilding their marriage will tell you that it will make you feel better about yourself and if you salvage the M, the R can become better than before the A.

If you want to try and save your M, be prepared. As the BS you will most likely have to carry most of the burden in this process early on. It is not fair considering that you are not the one who made the poor choice to have needs met outside of the M, but as you read posts regarding fog, etc. the WS is not even on the same planet right now. You have to be the lighthouse to direct her back to earth. She will come eventually if you avoid LB's and implement a good Plan A. Also, take care of yourself. Do something fun, eat right, exercise...all of this will take you away from some of the pain that you are experiencing.

Be ready for a rollercoaster ride. Working into recovery is a bumpy road...but if you reach the end of the ride, your M will be saved and you both can enjoy a much more fulfilling R.

You pretty much nailed how things are going. I have bought her some resources, including Surviving an Affair. I just need to provide an environment for her to heal.