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Well guys
Today is WH b-day. I am kinda sad about it. Thinking about what we would have been doing as a family to celebrate and as I am in plan b I can't even send him a card. I think back over the years we have been together the holidays, the birthdays and all that stuff just feeling blue today
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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(((((joanna32)))))
It's hard, but that's because YOU care. Despite it all, YOU still care. That's quite a difference between a WS lost in the fog and you who have to suffer with their insanity.
God bless. Stay the course with the Plan B.
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It's hard but count yourself lucky. At least your WH hasn't (so far) done something for his birthday he has to rub your nose in. My WH went to a rock concert for his birthday. Some mysterious person from his work "gave" him tickets. He sent his sons cellphone pixs to brag about it.
Sometimes sticking to Plan B stopping you from doing stupid things. I felt bad about not sending a card or giving him a present. When my mom asked if she should send a card, I told her not to bother. I hope it hurt him but doubt if it did.
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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yeah I hear that. I always worked hard to make birthdays special for him as well as the kids. Me not sending a card will have no effect as far as I can tell. He doesn't care that I didn't send him something or send a card. He has OW to do that now. My b-day was in june and he gave me a gift and a friend b-day card then blew up before he left saying I didn't apreciate the gift he gave me. (he gave me a mouse for my computer)His mom gave me jewlery that is what P.O.'d him not that I didn't appreciate it. Oh well breath deep and stay away from the phone.
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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Joanna,
It is tough being in Plan B during B-Day/Holidays. I went into Plan B just two days before mine. It was terrible. Thankfully some very good friends took me out to dinner. WH left presents and a card from DS in the house....
I bet no card from you will have more effect than you think. Even though he is with OW he probably (selfishly) still thought you would send him a card....
Hugs going out to you tonight. I am sorry you are feeling sad...
Kimberly
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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He gave you a mouse for your computer???????????????????????
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