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Yesterday my H called me and told me he was instructed by his boss to let the OW go. Now he tells me he has a late night meeting tonight. I don't believe it. I think he will be out with her. What do I do?
M 26
H 28
D day 3 Sept 05
Plan A 21 Sept 05
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Tell him that this what you're worried about. Ask if you can go with him and sit and read a book in the lobby or something while he's in his meeting...tell him that it would go a long ways towards rebuilding your trust in him. That way you can SEE that he's not with OW, and that he's working on the marriage.
Make sense?
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I agree, you'll know by his reaction. If he says OK...then no problem, and DO show up. Just tell him it's National Bring Your Spouse to Work Night. If he gets defensive, and makes excuses, then you KNOW what is going on...I'd go to his job anyway and see who gets into his car after work...
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What if he says no I can't come? What do I do if I find out they are going out together?
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...I'd go to his job anyway and see who gets into his car after work... If you can be calm about it, go there and catch him as he is probably planning on being with her... EXPOSURE such as this is a crucial part of PLAN A.... BTW: It might be helpful to keep your posts on one thread....
Last edited by mimi1254; 10/25/05 09:36 AM.
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Then show up anyway...without warning. Sit in the parking lot, and watch to see if OW is there as well. See if your H is there, or if he goes somewhere else.
Don't accept a no from him. Tell him that he's got to do SOMETHING to help re-build the trust he's shattered here...and that this is a good step. There is no reason why he can't let you come along and sit in the parking lot, or whatever. If he refuses to negotiate, then it's likely that there IS no meeting, other than one between him and OW. If that's the case, then you need to plan out how you want to respond to that...or how you can prove that this is the case.
Could you have a friend that he doesn't know follow him when he leaves for his meeting tonite?
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