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I posted here before the weekend that my ex-bf from 8yrs ago wanted to see me. Well guys he showed up at my moms house on Sunday night! He stayed for about 20 mins and then he left. I could tell he wanted more just the way he was looking at me. So he calls my cell at like 3 am i didnt answer the phone then he texts me. He said that it was nice seeing me again. That he wanted to come and get me so that he could show me how he would make love to me. That he would take my two kids in and raise them as if they were his own. I said o no, the only dad my kids know is not here right bc he is in Iraq but would love to be w/ him rather then where he is at. I said that is the only father they will EVER know. Then he says that i should have sex with him bc my husband would never find out. Im like what?! (im just reading these as he keeps messaging me) Then when he did say that i said of course my husband would find out bc it would eat away at me inside and i would tell him and then he would prolly kill you. Now yes my H did have a ONS but two wrongs dont make a right. I've blocked him as of now but i just thought i would share with you all that my ex-bf from ages ago shows up wanting me to sleep with him. Pretty ******* up. Did i do the right thing by blocking him i told my mom what he said and my mother in law.
BS 24
FWH 24
M- 3years
Together 7 years
DS 4
DD 1
D-Day 6/27/05
NC- 6/28/05
Exposed A 7/1/05
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Change your cell phone #, how did he get the number in the first place?
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Yes you did the right thing!! This guy shows up after 8 years, calls you on your cell phone at 3AM???!!! and all he wants to talk about is sex???? LOSER!! STALKER MATERIAL!! Do not engage in any form of conversation with him. At all.
Me/BS 48
Married 16 yrs/together 23; 1 child
Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05
WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05
WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06
12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture)
2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late.
WH has tried numerous times to reconcile.
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I have a question.
why is this a question on a marriage building site?
So what if your WH has a ONS...
You put an exclamation mark by he showed up...did you want him to or something/
Cut off contact. This is stupid.
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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Yep stalker material! Didnt think of that one. I will change my cell phone number but my dad has to do that its under his name. He got my number bc i had it up in my away message for my husband to call me didnt know he'd be the one! Stupid Me
BS 24
FWH 24
M- 3years
Together 7 years
DS 4
DD 1
D-Day 6/27/05
NC- 6/28/05
Exposed A 7/1/05
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Instead of discussing anything with him, you should have stated that you are married, and don't want anything to do with him. By discussing things with him, you are inviting more problems. He will think that he just has to "convince" you.
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