I haven't used the alarm system in forever....

No warning or nothing, huh? Change the codes, Just let him walk into the "trap" I've set. Police show up. WH looks ridiculous.

I know he is going to see that as vindictive.

So sweet of Kim, huh? Warning her WH that the alarms are turned on and codes changed?

Now I'm going to bash myself!!

Kim

It seems perfectly resonable that as you are currently living as a woman alone (with DS) that you would be more cautious and use the alarm system.

I see no reason to warn WH of this change.

What color bedroom paint did you pick?

Kim -

If you have let your husband know that it makes you uncomfortable when he enters your home when you are gone, I see no problem not notifying him when you change the alarm code.

It's called Pottery Red.....I painted part of a wall last night. It is a big change....kind of dark. But then and again I have been used to the builder move in special color of "off white". I think I will like it when I"m all done.

I didn't set the alarms today when I left. I just couldn't push those buttons....No sign of entry in the house today though. So I truly believe he didn't come in. I still plan on setting the alarm when I leave for Thanksgiving.

Now, this whole A thing has followed me to my dream world. Can't remember all of last night's dream, but part of it was me grabbing "OW" around the neck and just shaking her back and forth until she passed out.

Nice. I've never seen OW, but in my dream she was very pretty. Had curly brown hair and a beautiful complexion. Her family was in part of the dream and I kept telling them over and over what she was doing.

WH was in there too, but I can't remember what happened with him....

Well, that's my update - nothing big.

Kim

Hi Kim,

I had some very intuitive dreams when DDay hit. In one, WH was dying and I wasn't able to be there with him and hold him. That really upset me. In another I dreamt that DS and I were home alone and a tornado was heading straight for our house (We don't have tornadoes where I live). It hit the house and tore it off the foundation. I went to grab DS's hand but a faceless OW (I didn't know who she was at the time) parked herself between us and said I belong here. The house was in the air swirling and I thought OK, we're in the air but we're still OK. I just don't know where we are going to land. In another I dreamed that an unknown person from WH work made a comment that led me to believe it was someone he met through work. It was although I didn't know it at the time. This really amazes me and I have learned to listen to my God given intuition.

So I should hunt her down and strangle her, right!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

You got it girlfriend!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hmmmmm --- I take that back about WH not coming in the house. I think he was in and on the computer today. History shows a couple of files opened that I know I didn't open....He just covered his tracks really well when he came in.

I checked History on the Internet brower and it pulls up everywhere that I've been. Then it has an option for "My Computer" - It shows to Microsoft Word Documents there. One was his & one was mine. Not sure why he would be opening that one - it's just a clipart of a lion that I used in a flyer.....

There's no way those could be listed there unless someone opened them, right??

Kim

I think changing the alarm code is a great idea....why wait?

Hi Kim,

By the way...I love looking into dreams.

If God gives you a dream, there is always an interpretation. Pray for it.

And sometimes a dream will just come from your own soul's desires.

God has given me awesome dreams. He at times has had to show me things through dreams...things that I would have no other way of knowing.

He gave me many 4 prophetic dreams specifically when I was married to my ExH.

When EXH was gone on vacation to India....

1. He showed me a beautiful woman. Long dark black hair, pretty complexion, dressed in purple silk. I just looked at her....and she was looking at me...eye to eye.

Interpretation.....I know this was the OW, his EXW/W. When I told him of this dream, he had a shocked look on his face and said "Oh that must have been my mother" His mother is old, and I had seen a picture of her....it wasn't her.

2. The next dream I drempt of violence going on in India where he was.

Interpretation....When he returned... He told me his mother was murdered while he was there, said his nephew did it, and robbed her. He was very broken. That evening while in bed he held his head in his hands and said "If I kill my mother, God will kill me."

3. I was flown "In the Spirit" to India, into poor home, my H was there. Bread dough on the table as if being prepared to bake. I hugged him. I remember everything he was wearing. Next thing... I was sitting at a table with my head down crying all alone.

Interpretation: He abandoned me. He knew I was on to his schemes.

4. I was flown again "In the Spirit" to India...after his abandonment and our D. He came riding up to me on a motorcycle (a kind of motorcycle you do not see in the US). We were by a big barn. He got off the motorcycle, walked up to me and said "I am sorry for all of the pain I have caused you and your family." He walked into the barn to work.

Interpretation....He was eventually deported back to India. Later, after this dream, I was looking at a Time magazine and there were pictures of India. Many people in the picture were riding the same exact motorcycle I saw in the dream.

You will have answers to your dreams Kim.

Lady

Kim,

My WH used to come in the house when we weren't here. He always denied it. But I'd find little things. He left something on the counter and forgot it. I cleaned out closet and his summer shirts were there. Two days later they were gone. It felt very unfair to me. He was living in an apt. at the time. He had his privacy and his boundaries. I thought why should he be able to come in here anytime he wants? I can't go snooping in his apt. I changed the locks. Now he has a key again. Now I don't care but if he doesn't come out of the fog soon I am going to have to change locks again. I guess I'm on the fence aren't I?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Kim,

It sounds like someone was on the computer if the documents were showing under the history. When you are under history if you right click on the document and go to properties you can see the time and date the document was last accessed. This way you will know for sure.

Ladysheep - thanks for sharing that info. Very interesting.....Dreams can be strange creatures. I really have not been dreaming very much at all. This last dream was the first I can remember in a LONG time.



Shattered - I knew WH would come in the house. I don't know why I thought he would respect my request. You are still in Plan A, right?? So, it's not a huge deal at this point for him to come in IMO. You are doing a good job in getting him wondering what you are up to!!! But you are right. It's not fair for him to come in and have a sneak peek at my life.

Do you mean on the fence between a Plan A & and Plan B??



Trying - Thanks for that info!! I will know to check that the next time(except there won't be a next time!!!!!!!!!!)

B/C HE WAS DEFINITELY NO QUESTIONS ASKED IN THE HOUSE TODAY. His day to pick up DS off of the bus, which stops right in front of the house. He & DS came in and "hung out" for a while.

Is it really fair to DS to not get to come home some days after school???? All the other days, my neighbor watches him at her house after school until I get home. When I set the alarms from NOW ON, WH is going to have to explain to DS why they can't come into the house....

The alarms are getting set tomorrow when I leave for holiday.

Kim

Hi Kim,

Just checking in on you. How is everything going? How was your Thanksgiving? Maybe you went away for the holiday? Hope all is well.

Shattered05 -

Hi - I'm doing amazingly well. My Thanksgiviging was very nice, went to my parents. We had my sis from CO and Grandma from TX as weel as local family there. I got teary just once when my brother was saying the prayer before dinner.

Came home Friday, but haven't been able to check in. Was thinking WH was going to call to see DS but I guess he hasn't asked Charlie or Sara....

Set the alarm before I left!!!! Had a call from Charlie about that which I am going to post as a sep. thread for feedback.

So, WH couldn't get in the house at all!!

How was your holiday??? I'll catch up with you on your thread!!

Thanks so much for checking in with me!!!!

Kim

So glad you had a good holiday, can't wait to read how the alarm thing went!

Just got a message from Sara. WH wants to see DS today.....I don't really have anything planned today, trying to decide if I should give the o.k. on such short notice. I would like it if he would try to schedule at least one day ahead..........

Hmmmmmm....

She also said WH has gotten DS some CHristmas presents & wanted to let me know what they were so we would duplicate them.... Guess he's not planning on coming home before Christmas...

Kim

bumping ----any thoughts on letting WH see DS today??

Kim, yes I would let him see DS. Your son hasn't seen his dad in some time and needs to see him. Also, it would make you look mean if you say no.

My reasoning would be that he has Sara call the DAY OF(I'd like it if he would try to make plans in advance).

I will let WH see DS today, but will e-mail Sara later to tell her that he really needs to plan a day ahead. I don't want to come across as mean, but DS and I could have made plans for the day ......

I am a "planner" and like to have things set up ahead -----

Thanks for the feedback ML!! Sometimes I just need to be pointed in the right direction!!

Kim