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OK, this is a weird question, but I have to ask. It seems like I was always waking up with the weird feeling that H was trying to initiate this with me. I even caught him at it a few times. He always claimed to be asleep and seemed embarassed about it.
I always felt very violated with this, but especially so when I discovered H had taken photos of me while I was asleep. It was when I was pregnant. We kept the digital camera in the bedroom to take belly photos, and one morning I suggested taking one and found these pictures on it. I asked him why he did that, and he said it was because he didn't think I would let him take them while I was awake. I was really creeped out, but then again, I used to volunteer with a group that helps victims of sexual assault. Am I wrong, or is this really weird?
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WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
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Hi I'm not sure what you're asking. Are you asking if it is weird for him to take pics of you while you're asleep? You said something about him trying to initate something? As far as the pics go, not sure what kind you're meaning. However,I do think theres some communication issues that need to be addressed, meaning yes he should always ask you if something is ok to do or not, not just take it upon himself to do something without your knowledge.
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I don't want to go into graphic detail, but I would wake up and he would be doing things to me, things you normally do when you're awake and consenting, if you know what I mean. Can people really do that in their sleep, like sleep walking?
The photos were nudes of my pregnancy-induced growing chest. I already know that's weird. I mentioned them to give context to the above question.
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OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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I have heard of sleep walking, but sleeping fondling etc, hmmm? Not my knowledge I would think he was not sleep and knows what it is he is doing. Why he is doing it is a whole nother thing. Have you talked to him and let him know you are aware of it? Does he pass it off as he doesn't know hes doing it? If so then its one of 2 things, either he lying about it, or he maybe really doesn't know (is he on any meds). If this is this case and its medicine induced and hes not aware of it then he needs to talk with the doc. I have a feeling he knows what hes doing though.
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Yes, it is a recognized disorder...although whether your H has it, or not, I have no idea. More info: Sleep Sex . Kathi
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Wow thats interesting! You need to talk with him about this. If he continues to tell you he doesn't know he is doing this, then I would suggest telling him he needs to go visit the doc and see if they can diagnose him. If he refuses to go, then chances are he knows hes doing it, but like I said why he is, is a whole nother thing.
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Actually, I had talked to him about it. A lot. I guess it doesn't really matter now, since he walked out a couple months ago. Even though I absolutely hate him not being here, I am sleeping better.
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XH, 27
DD, 1
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OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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I can understand the "I always felt very violated with this"
with him taking photos of you while you sleep, But I wake my wife up during the night sometimes for sex and would be offended if she thought I was violating her by initiating the foreplay. Did he always say he was doing it in his sleep?..was he afraid to admit your feelings controlled his being honest? Why is it that he left 2 months ago??
just a thought.
DDay-jan 10 2002, and sept 6 2004
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It wasn't like, "hey, honey are you awake?" It was, I would wake up and he would be in the middle of things.
(Formerly SadMommy05)
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XH, 27
DD, 1
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OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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