EX had an affair with a friend of mine. They are still together. I moved on with my life.

A few days ago, I went to EX's house to pick up something and he made coffee and invited me to stay and join him. I said thank you and sat down. We chatted about the children. He asked if I had any question about him and his relationship with OW. I said no because I know his answers would be nothing but lies. Truthfully, I could careless how it happened or how they are doing. I'm not interested.

Then EX asked if I wanted to go lay down on the couch and snuggle with him. I was floored! OMG what is this man on? My quickest reply was, "Did you not get a copy of the divorce papers?"

So it made me think if this is a common occurence with the EX's. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

[color:"blue"]Well Harley does warn us to remove all ex lovers from our lives when we marry. The temptation to revisit old flames must be very high for him to warn couples to do this.

I've been down the aisle 3x and I find:

I slept again with my 1st ex one time after the divorce. I was lonely and went by his house and had a couple of beers and the next thing I know we were doing it and it still wasn't very good. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Ex #2 I hated his guts for years because he fought me for 4 years for custody of our daughter. He is a very attractive man however, and now that most of my resentments are gone I look at him every now and then, think hmmm, Nah!

Ex #3 is morally repulsive to me because he cheated and continues to cheat on his new gf's. I was nice to him a few times because we have to interract concerning the children, and he started giving me the eye like he would like to...

I think given the opportunity to comparison shop and to waffle back and forth (cake eating) a lot of WS would go for it. He may be regretting his choice or want to see if you were as good as he remembered. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

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God no!
And what would I do ten seconds later anyway?

My XH, four time adulterer, made a move on me at the courthouse when we filed. Can you believe it?! I'd lost 25lbs over the stress of the breakup and he told me I looked HOT. Ewwwwwwwww! What an *ss!

Mrs. W8ing

Really, I think the only right thing would be for you to turn yourself in.

Not no, but He!! NO!
The thought of that makes my stomach churn.

K!

Sunny,

In my situation, not any amount of lonliness can make me be intimate with EX. (If we had a different situation, it might be a different story)
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Newly,

LOL! That was funny!

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W8ting,

Your EX sounds like mine. My name for him is "a**hole", it's programed as that on my phone.
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Karona,

Ewwwwe is the right and a smart reaction.

I had myself tested for STD and HIV the day I left him. I had to go for HIV testing every 4 month for a year. Thank God the results were clean.

From my understanding EX went wild and slept with everyone and anyone for 6 months and sometimes he did not use any protection. He told someone that if he ever came down with anything, his excuse for OW is he got it from me!

IMO~~

I got tested too. I remember that day vividly. I bet my blood pressure was sky high, from anxiety. The doctor said, do you want an HIV test, and I said, test me for everything! Everything came out clear for me too.
I felt so dirty asking for the tests, but I felt I had no choice.

Karona

I got tested for everything too, and there was no affair that I knew of. I just didn't trust him anymore.
When we first started dating, I asked if he had an AIDs test, and he said yes. He told me later that he lied. Well, he lies about alot of things, so I was very worried for me and the kids.

I didn't feel dirty, my doctor knew my X. It was just difficult wondering and I wanted to do it when I was strong enough for the news.

As much as X is a total AH (and yes I use the same title as others), I have two amazing and wonderful children who are truly a blessing.

Wow, I can't believe it! I didn't know I was married to a polygamist on top of everything else! But I must have been. Why? Because look how many of you on here were married to AH too!!!!! Sheesh, does that guy get around or what?
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He hasn't made a move on me, and I doubt he'll ever have the courage to get to that point.... he'd go for the sob story pity party first to see my reaction and guage what his chances were before he'd ever try to make a move. But if he did, I do believe the results would make newspaper headlines the next day, because my tolerance level for him and that sort of activity has gone to the negative side of the scale. He would need to hope no sharp objects were within reach when he made his attempt. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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