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Question on STDs #1508635 10/27/05 01:16 PM
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 396 H Hopeful4future Member
Hopeful4future Member H Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 396	Read something that sparked a concern on a different thread. FWW has had NC since early July. She gave a few BJs that were unprotected and had sex once with a condom. Since then we have had sex MANY times. 1st question: Is it worth getting tested after so long? I told her that I wanted her to get tested and she got seriously ticked off and offended because she thought that we were past this. She also said that she would get tested next week when she goes to the doctor if that's what I wanted. I told her "yes". 2nd question: How should I deal with her anger and resentment towards me now? Hopeful4future The character of a person is defined by their actions...not their intentions. Otherwise, the world would be full of Saints. BS: 40 (Me) xFWW: 50 Married: 9/97 PA: 3 months D-Day: 6/30/2005 (she revealed to me) Divorced: 10/2/2008 Happy that I've moved on

Re: Question on STDs Hopeful4future #1508636 10/27/05 01:25 PM
Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,554 M ManInMotion Member
ManInMotion Member M Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,554	Quote 1st question: Is it worth getting tested after so long? Yes. How long does she think it take for an HIV infection to be noticed? Quote 2nd question: How should I deal with her anger and resentment towards me now? Make sure that she knows that you're not doing this out of revenge, but simply to know if an infection has occured, so you both can act and plan accordingly. ManInMotion =========== (see "MiM's Story" for more details)

Re: Question on STDs Hopeful4future #1508637 10/27/05 01:30 PM
Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,088 Atlanta, Ga A AskMe Member
AskMe Member A Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,088 Atlanta, Ga	Oral sex can transmit a host of STDs. But the ones that are bacterial would have created one heck of a sore throat and she would have needed antibiotics to clear it up. She would have known is she had caught something. The viral ones, well they linger and not much you can do about them. HPV is the most common and it tranmits easily from mouth to other areas. A pap smear and the new HPV test is the best way to detect the virus. The HPV virus causes genital warts. Herpes, 5 days usually to detect it. If you haven't seen it yet, you probably won't. HIV, not as easy to pass, but possible. Need to wait 3-6 months for a good test.

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