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I have read several posts here referencing reverse babble. Can someone tell me what this is, or point me in the direction of a post that explains it?
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FRUSTRATED73, Check out this reverse babble thread. Reverse BabbleReverse babble is responding to a WS's nonsensical superfluous bullpucky, with bullpucky. They are trying to confuse and manipulate. You just turn it right back around on them basically using their own words. I'm not an expert at this by any means. I really never had to practice it. Thank goodness. But, a lot of the BS's say it works like a charm in some situations. It turns the confusion back on the WS and makes them hear their own words. Best of, Plank.
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Talk for an hour acting like you know what you are saying and have absolutely no credibility or reason applied to what you are saying. Thats a basic example <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
9 years now ... and some days you still say grrr!
Hang in there.
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I have read several posts here referencing reverse babble. Can someone tell me what this is, or point me in the direction of a post that explains it? Reverse babble: The art of keeping the 'enemy' off balanced. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> That's my definition (the short version). Now how can we help you? L.
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Me: FWW (34)
H: BS (35)
Together 12 years, no children (yet)
LTA: 3 years
D-Day: Sept. 13, 2005 (I confessed)
So blessed, thankful and happy for my wonderful H...
"God lives in the gathering of saints."
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I love this thread. Today, when talking, I asked her to do things for the kids. Got heated. I told her I was making everything easy for her (ie doormat.) I said I had been fantastic to her during the affair.
She said, no you haven't.
I said, No, you're right, I've been a b*stard.
She said, That's not what I said.
Hmmmmm... you're right, it does throw them off balance.
Brian
Moral of the Mayonnaise Jar: Do you want a full life? Or just sand? --------------------------------------------------------------- BS: Me: 33 WS: 32 Married 10 years Affair Started: May 06 Exposure: July 06 Daughter 4 years Son 2 years
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Search under the words reverse babble and see what comes up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> The idea is to keep 'em off balanced so you can make your point and 'escape'. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> The result is that it leaves the WS in a quandry (which is a good thing) and the BS doesn't get hit with the WS babble as much. I have also described it as when a car hits an oil slick....sometimes it is best to turn INTO the spin instead of braking hard and trying to turn out of the spin. Reverse babble often spins into the babble and throws the WS babble right back at 'em. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Othertimes it just throws the WS in chaos....which is also a good thing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> L.
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BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
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