OK, Last weekend was better than I could have dreamed. My wife came home from ATL on Friday at noon. I was very nervous. We went to lunch and talked for 2 1/2 hours and it was great. went home and made love. Picked up our sone and had a nice evening at home as a family. Saturday we got up, ran errands, carved our pumpkins, andother great family day. Sunday took a ride on a "choo choo train" as a family, again a great day, made love again. Monday she wakes up at 3:30am with anxiety about returning to the office and the embarrassment about exposure... Also made a comment about not loving me Monday during the day she saw her counselor, and came home just hating me... We argued monday night and tuesday morning. It seems every time she sees her counselor, we take a step back because she comes out of her appt feeling worse than she did when she went in. Tuesday night she came home, we had a nice evening together... Wednesday she was a little cold again, but not overly bad... Thursday morning she was really nice, we dropped our son off at daycare, she gave me a hug and a kiss and we went our separate ways to work. during the day I emailed her, she told me she was having anxiety about being at work again due to exposure, which gave me anxiety. Thursday night she came home, we got along great again, made love again. This mroning she was up early again, said she was having some anxiety about work but said that it was due to things she had to do, not about us or exposure... Got another hug and kiss this morning. I have not love busted since we argued on Monday evening... Is this kind of stuff normal? I have really been pouring on the good stuff at home. cooking dinner, cleaning the house, doing the dishes, etc.. IOs this how plan A is supposed to be? On the OM front I think the exposure worked like a charm as OM will not even be in the same area as my wife.. The bad consequence though is that my wife is feeling embarrassed about the whole thing. Should I try to comfort her about that, or let her get over it by herself? Is this stroy typical, and will it improve? What are thoughts about her counselor? Is this woman helpking my wife? When I get out of my counselors office I feel better. she always feels worse... I don't see how hers is helping us. She came with me to my appt on Tuesday and I think she felt better too. He says that while I have to be prepared for the possibility of divorce, he does not advocate it and thinks my wife should give it more time.