When we were paying her child support it did not even cross our mind to ask what she spent the child support on. If we asked she would have laughed in our face. She wants a freaking spread sheet. What a joke. Our lawyer seponead sp?) OW's finances from her work and she was telling the truth about the amount of money she is making. She also now wants to settle. After we have paid our lawyer $1200 to go after child support. If we went through the state it would have taken a lot longer. We wanted it over with it. There is no point in settling now. The hard part is over (getting her fiancial info). It's just a matter of plugging in the info and letting the computer spit out a number and having the court enforce it.

[color:"purple"]Tell her,
DUH, THE OC, then explain :clothing, eduction,toys, basic living expences just like what you used our CS for. [/color]

wow when the shoe is on the other foot lol

I guess she would not mind giving you a detail of what she spent the child support she received from your H on right LOL

that is just so great that she is on the other side.

I don't get why she would want to know what the money is being spent on. I would consult my attorney and if he says it's ok I'd tell her. You guys have nothing to hide.

Well there is a huge difference in the amount of what your husband paid and what she has to pay. The grocies for the month did not even cover that amount.

Maybe that is why is thinks she should have a break down. The thing is you can't provide that. How do you know day to day what you will spend on him and really it's also to help keep a roof over his head so the court won't make you do it.

I would not worry about it. Just let your attorney handle it.

She won't be able to get it (a break down) so it's a mute point. I hope you plan to move forward as you have been. It's too bad she doesn't like it now that the shoe is on the other foot. OW with custody have no problem filing for a modification if they hear xMM has a higher paying job, I don't see what the difference is.

CS, not only to supply the child's basic needs, is also to even out the income discrepancy between parents...so the child does not have to suffer the difference between the two parent's incomes, in case there is a large difference.

For instance, 2 parents with very different incomes...is it fair for the child to live in near poverty or middle class standards in one parent's home because they live in one parents home, and the other parent fulfills basic needs? NO, if the non-custodial parent makes a good income, the child should reap the benefit of this...should not suffer financially because of who they live with...

i am not sure i can agree with that SHMI. I dont see it is my h's job to subsidise the income of the xOW in our situation. If she wants a higher standard of living for her child she can either sign over custody to us (who can give it to the OC) or earn more money.

Even if H and i were to split, i would not expect his CS payment to subsidise my income. Assuming custody stayed with me, his payment would be for the children. It is up to me to create and maintain my own lifestyle. JMHO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

In Lizbeth's situation, her family and the xow had 50/50 custody so CS was nominal. Now the OC will be living with Lizbeth and her h most of the time and the Xow only occassionally, therefore the costs to Lizbeth have increased and have decreased for the xOW, therefore the CS figure has changed to balance out the change in circumstances.

I find it incredibly rich that she now wants a break down. As others have said, she can whistle for it as no court on earth would ever try to create one. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Caroyln