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H, I and DS3 spent most of the day together. We were off to the pumpkin farm and found that is closed last year.
Went out for pizza. I was doing okay until an oldies song came on. It was a love song by the Commodores (I think). I began to cry right there at our table. I couldn't stop the tears, they just came. I had to go to the car. Luckily we had almost finished the meal. I didn't say a word, and H didn't ask why I was crying. I think I just miss him and the "us" that we used to be and I miss being in love with him, I miss laughing with him. I remember the days we used to be so in love, and so comfortable with each other, it just hurts.

I can't ask when does the hurt stop, because I know no one can answer that. But just ask to please pray for my broken heart. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />

Thanks, Lady

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(((Ladysheep)))

I wish I had something comforting to say, you have been so kind to me. I will pray for healing for you family. ((LS))


Me-41 BS (FWS)
DH-41 WS (FBS)
2DD's- 10 and 12
Married 15 years
Separated for 2 years after my A
Reconciled for 1 year before his A
D-day for his A 8/23/05
WH moved out 9/16/05
Divorce final 1/23/07
Affair ended or month or so later
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Lady,


I wish I knew what to say to you. You have been such a comfort to me. I am so sorry you are going through this pain.

I pray everynight for you and everyone on this board. I believe your great faith in god will help you through this and make life so much better.

Keep praying and believeing in the Lord and time will heal you and your H.

Love,
Hurting


BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
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Lady - I barely remember those days now. Life goes on and you will be happy again. I was so sad and heartbroken that I thought it was the end for me. But I got through it, and you will too. It just sucks in the mean time.

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{{{{Lady}}}}

I'm sorry you are feeling that way. It is hard sometimes to hold those tears down, I know. We all wish that things could be the way they used to be before. Our love was so innocent. Nothing could tarnish it.

Like Believer said, time will heal the sadness and the pain.....

Kim


D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Just want to say thankyou all for your comforting words last night. I had alot of tears. I figure, either the Lord is trying to heal me of this, or he is trying to tell me something concerning my H. The thing is H never said a word through it all. Except at the restaurant when I started crying he did say "Are you alright." That's when I went to the car, only because I didn't want everyone in the restaurant seeing me cry. And for me to come under such grief, it surprised me, afterward I thought about it, that he didn't ask why I was crying, nothing (at that time I probably couldn't have put it into words anyway, but now I know why, because I was remembering when...)....So later, I went to bed and he kept telling DS to be quiet as mom is trying to sleep. I was just laying there crying not sleeping. No comfort nothing. Has he become heartless? Hardhearted? Did he feel it was just something I had to go through without any comfort or questions? I don't know.

But thankyou all for your care and prayers.

Lady

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lady,

I wish I knew why your H didn't comfort you, but that is only something he can tell you.

maybe he thought you just needed some quiet time and some time alone. I know thats not very good reasons at all. Myself if I saw my H upset and crying I would want to comfort him but some people handle things differently.

I pray this will all work out for you and your H. Your in my prayers....

Hurting


BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
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D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
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LS

OM made Squid a contraband double CD of wonderful love songs that Squid played absolutely incessantly for MONTHS before and after d-day. "their song" was a great Aretha and George Michael song.

For ages I couldn't hear the greats without a twinge.

Then one day I was driving along and " I knew you were waiting" by Aretha and George Michael came on. I actually listened to the lyrics :

Quote
Like a warrior that fights
And wins the battle
I know the taste of victory

Though i went through some nights
Consumed by the shadows
And was crippled emotionally

Somehow I made it through the heartache
I escaped
I found my way out of the darkness, kept my faith
Kept my faith

And the river was deep I didn't falter
When the mountain was high
I still believed
When the valley was low
It didn't stop me
I knew you were waiting
Knew you were waiting for me

With and endless desire
I kept on searching
Sure in time our eyes would meet

And like the bridge is on fire
The hurt is over
One touch and you set me free

I don't regret a single moment
Looking back, when I think of all those disappointments
I just laugh, I just laugh

So we were drawn together through destiny
I know this love we share was meant to be

its as though God himself sent me a psalm ! *I* am the warrior that fights and wins the battle ! It is the very story of my response to d-day !

That has TOTALLY transformed my view of THIS classic and many others.

Do NOT let your WH's temporary insanity with a skank rob you of the JOY of the Commodores !

You *ARE* three times a lady !

All blessings


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