Your answer?..............

Proverbs 6:20 My son, observe the commandment of your father And do not forsake the teaching of your mother;
Pro 6:21 Bind them continually on your heart; Tie them around your neck.
Pro 6:22 When you walk about, they will guide you; When you sleep, they will watch over you; And when you awake, they will talk to you.
Pro 6:23 For the commandment is a lamp and the teaching is light; And reproofs for discipline are the way of life
Pro 6:24 To keep you from the evil woman, From the smooth tongue of the adulteress.
Pro 6:25 Do not desire her beauty in your heart, Nor let her capture you with her eyelids.
Pro 6:26 For on account of a harlot {one is reduced} to a loaf of bread, And an adulteress hunts for the precious life.
Pro 6:27 Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned?
Pro 6:28 Or can a man walk on hot coals And his feet not be scorched?
Pro 6:29 So is the one who goes in to his neighbor's wife; Whoever touches her will not go unpunished.
Pro 6:30 Men do not despise a thief if he steals To satisfy himself when he is hungry;
Pro 6:31 But when he is found, he must repay sevenfold; He must give all the substance of his house.
Pro 6:32 The one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense; He who would destroy himself does it.
Pro 6:33 Wounds and disgrace he will find, And his reproach will not be blotted out.
Pro 6:34 For jealousy enrages a man, And he will not spare in the day of vengeance.
Pro 6:35 He will not accept any ransom, Nor will he be satisfied though you give many gifts.

In His arms

Re; Unfaithful

My STBXW had a barely controlled aura of " I can hardly wait to watch it" when she saw the movie advertised. Since she had always had a lukewarm reaction to any Gere movie and hated any woman that was beautiful like Lane, it struck me funny that she looked for it with such anticipation.

DUH, I was such a dummy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

While your answer to many of lifes question may be found in the Bible, non-christians like myself tend to stick with the reality of things, so in response to the original question, murder+sex = alot of DVD's and movie tickets sold, simple as that

Hanzo:

I must admit, we are Christians but during my FWW's affair, she was throwing it all out the window. Christianity was not an issue at all for her at the time of the offense. The fog overtook her completely. But, her making the committment back to the family was partley because she wanted to do what she thought God wanted from her. She still had severe withdrawal from her OM.

Desperate BS's sometimes do desperate things as shown in the movie.

TooSoon

I understand and agree that that is what sells movies. On the concept of reality, by quoting the Bible, I am sticking with reality. You may chose not to accept that reality...that is your choice. but to say that non-christians stick with reality and Christians don't is rather offensive...and blatantly untrue.

In His arms.

I taped the show, Unfaithful, yesterday and was watching it again today. I am amazed how it showed the WW living a dual life with the OM and her BS. It became difficult for the WW to keep it up and she gradually became disconnected from her BS. THe BS was sensing it and began questioning her love for him etc. BS's really do know in their heart or at least I did.

The WW became so addicted to the OM, she wanted to stop the affair but couldn't. It was too late when she finally did, and she immediately became more physical with her BS by holding his hand etc. I was reliving the emotions of the movie as the scenes were unfolding. I saw my wife in the WW and me in the BS. My wife was dating a man 18 years younger than her much like the movie where her OM was the younger lover.

Ouch, this movie is a hard one to watch and relive.

TooSoon

This is kind of what happened with me. The first time we met...it was major chemistry with om. We both brushed it aside said...another time...another place... we would exchange #'s but were married. That was that...then one month later...a chance encounter again. I never thought I would see him again. It was one in a million. But, when we did have that run in...he said it had to be destiny.
Me? ... I said "no, you are the devil". Oh how I wish I would have run from that devil.

Back to the movie...the part that got me was when you see her emotionally distancing herself from her bh Gere. I mean that is exactly what I did. I fought it so hard but it happened. I disconnected completely. I tried not to but it was impossible.

When Diane Lane is in the tub...Gere wants to get intimate and she can't. Also, when she is in the train on the way home crying b/c she can't believe what she had done...AAAHHHHHH!
When she finally reaizes that she had forgotten her son...that this thing had taken over and she HAD to end it. She is in the kitchen crying hysterically and she leaves OM a message saying" I can't do this anymore...it's all the lies"... I did that so many times...

You know the part where she asks Gere?what did you DO to him?(om) Gere shouts "I wanted to kill you...not him."

Affairs are just bad, bad , bad. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Brandi...
brand new me

Brandi: I never said this online before but your comment made me think of this. After the affair and during recovery, my FWW told me when she with the OM once she glanced at him from the corner of her eye in a very quick glimpse, she said she saw her OM with horns coming from his head. She said it was almost a subconcious look but when she got her senses a short brief second later, he was just her OM with no horns. Personally, I believe that was a real sign for her to see but she was too much in the fog to stop anyway, but it stayed in her mind.

The OM was quite the aggressor. After DD, he played hard ball and was fighting for "his" rights to my wife. He was jealous when we went away for an overnight and fought hard to break our marriage.

My FWW went to our bedroom everynight, drank a lot, and became totally disconnected from me too. She would allow me to have sex with her but it was not intense or emotional, just sex. She would not let me kiss her during the affair. When I caught the affair, she immediately admitted to the affair and said, "the problem you have is I am in love with the OM".

At DD, I too wanted to kill the OM and myself but that was only a passing thought. Later and after I knew his name and address etc. my FWW said to me, "don't mess with the OM, he has a gun and knows how to use it" I said if I really wanted to kill him, he would have been dead by now. I think the emotions shown by the desperate BH in the movie are so real when the OM was killed that is could happen to anyone. The stakes are too high.

TooSoon

Brandi:

How long did your affair last. Ho long before PA began and how long have you been in recovery?

Funny. I mentioned this movie a while back in a post. At sometime during my FWH's A, but before D-day. I started to watch this movie. I didn't like the way it felt, so maybe my sixth sense was telling me something even then, but I never finished watching it. While it was on, my H came in the room and asked what I was watching and I told him. Later, I asked him if he had ever seen it because I wanted to know how it ended. He very quietly said, well he killed the OM.

Looking back, I think I can actually see the torment in his face at that moment.

I can't watch that movie ever even tho I am a huge Diane Lane fan. Far too close to home for me.

Hey TooSoon...

I will start a new thread...is om really a devil!!! You can ask me questions there.

Take care,
Brandi

I just watched this movie on TNT Sunday. My H had asked me what I did all day while he was gone Sunday and I told him I got interested in a movie. He said oh what was it about.
I had to change the story around a little bit because I did not want him to know.

M 26
H 28
married 7 years
DS 6 yrs old
D day 3 Sept 05
PLan A 21 Sept 05

TooSoon,

I had a similar moment which was very unnerving to me.When my WH was still living at home but I knew the A was still ongoing,contact was still ongoing,I was about to bring some laundry down to our basement and I glanced into my(now) office at my WH who was,as usual,sitting at the computer,he looked at me and I saw the most evil look I had ever seen.It made me shiver and it sounds like a movie scene but I have never seen my WH look like he did that day,ever.He was truly looking like he was something not himself,evil? I'll never forget that look.It made me realize,to this day as well,that he won't change and is very much still selfish and inside his own world,sneaky,dishonest and hurtful.ugh,I am just glad not to be around him anymore.

O

On the issue of the devil...

When a husband and wife get together intimately, it is said that angels gather and applaud.

When two people get together who arent married...who do you think gets together and applauds? Obviously, it would not be angels, nor Christ nor God. Oh, there are people applauding...you know who they are.

I have no doubt that Satan sent the OM to my wife...as he sends all OPs to WSs. That is why it is laughable when a WS says this person is their soulmate (only if you sold your soul to the Devil)...or even more so when they say that God wants this.

Adultery, pre-marital sex, etc...all do not involve God. All involve Satan.

Now, doesnt that take the fun out of it for you? Knowing that if you are having sex with someone you arent married to, that demons are in the room and God has left the building? Even when it is two single people dating.

We want to see things in 3D...but there is another dimension to this. There is a spiritual battle out there...and that battle can wreck our lives and wreck our eternity. If we choose to do things our way, count on God not being a part of it...and Satan laughing his butt off.

In His arms.

"so in response to the original question, murder+sex = alot of DVD's and movie tickets sold, simple as that"

Not really so simple as rental fees, but more a human emotion taking over that has been well documented by police reports and courtrooms. There are many a men and women in prison doing life sentences for murdering OM/OW in a fit of rage. These people are not unlike your next door neighbor or friends. They just lost it in a blink of an eye and committed murder and now they live with that fact everyday.

I guess this true reality TV, all rapped up into a movie called "Our lives, like it or not".

Isn't hat weird October, how different people are give the glimpse that these people saw as better described by Mortaman. The devil is in play and from the fog state, it is called love and romance, fate, and destiny.

Thanks for the good posts and comments.