My wife cheated on me multiple times in a span of 4 months. Since I found out she has stopped all communcations with the other people and has quit her job. I work from home so we are together 24 hours a day.

I believe she loves me even though she doesn't go above and beyond to show it. She is and has always been a closed book. I never know what she is really thinking. I have begged her many times to open up to me, to express her true emotions... good or bad. She always promises to try but I have yet to see any progress.

Last night was hellish. I told her that we need to face reality and realize our marriage is not salvagable. I layed down on the couch hoping she would come down, break down in tears and open up to me and beg for us to make it work. I know it was wishing thinking but I wanted it so badly. It didn't happen.

This morning she asked me with a stern voice when I was going to move out. I crumbled and started weeping like a baby. She didn't embrace me or try to comfort me. She just said now we're even since I made her quit her job and she has no financial stability. I told her we can still make it work if she would just open up to me. She refused because she said that makes her weak. She doesn't want to be vulnerable to anyone.

I NEED to know what my wife is thinking before I can decide whether or not to stay with her. Please direct me to any literature or threads that can help my wife open up to me. I love her dearly and do not want to lose her.

All right nick...

seems to me you want to widen your vocabulary and begin to pain pictures that more globally express your desires and your visions of marriage...

first off since you are the one posting here...I am going to address your actions....
AND
secondly....
we can't change your wife...so the theory is to make changes within you that serve you and your marriage and hopefully your wife.........

My wife cheated on me multiple times in a span of 4 months. Since I found out she has stopped all communcations with the other people and has quit her job.

same OP..
why the job quitting....

I told her that we need to face reality and realize our marriage is not salvagable

don't manipulate...don't lay expectations of actions on her and then get disappointed when she doesn't react the way you want..it just causes you pain and stress...
and most importantly...
DON'T PLAY THE DIVORCE CARE UNLESS YOU MEAN IT WITH CLEAR PLANS TO FOLLOW THROUGH...

Infact...she called your bluff this morning...

you want a divorce...get one.......
but don't use the word as a weapon...

one reason is that WS have lots of common characterisitics...

but here's two common ones...

WS words don't have meaning...
there for it is very important for BS to choose their words and to make meaning apply...

if you are fighting for your marriage...you must mean it and you must not belittle it as a WS does/did.

next

WS are very very confused about the true sanctity and meaning of marriage...

there for it serves the BS to very much be clear on what marriage means...and not throw its dissolution around flippantly and without REAL meaning....

She just said now we're even since I made her quit her job

that's fog babble bullcrap....
but don't powerstruggle it.....

widen your vision
dear wife....I have no power to make you do anything..for if I was that powerful then surely I would have MADE you not have an affair in the first place...

my desire is to live with you side by side as your partner and your support....

I want to be there for you
I want to your soft place to land..

I hold no desire to control you and know that I can not ...

I NEED to know what my wife is thinking before I can decide whether or not to stay with her

well isnt' that waiting for the impossible to decide to act...

do you only love if you are loved back
do you only do or give for someone one when you are done for and given back to...

do you plan to live a life based solely on tit for tat...

I say you want to get her attention start doing for her inspite of her actions...

start drawing her attention to you....

the fact that you are grandstanding, and basically threatening her with ultimatums that you don't mean...pretty much plays in to expected behavior from you...

it solidfies beliefs that you can't get over this and work through this...

it offers her no hope of recovery........

do you understand plan A as recoemmended by this site...
are you in plan A....

what are your plan A questions..

aRK