I wouldn't care. I'd begin the divorce case...but not UNTIL I called the DA...

Sure, they'd rather chase soembody else...like a bankrobber...a murderer...than the runaway groom and bride (bleech)...but it is STILL A CRIME.

I'd also expose them to all I know! even further.

My whole family and friends were aghast when my xh remarried only 48 hrs post divorce...some thought he actually did commit bigamy and some thought (even people he knew) that their marriage was illegal...

I was so angry and upset that I did not care...but had I thought he did do bigamy 100 percent, you betcha I'd filed charges against him and had my attorney smack that man back into court...

guess what happens in vegas....DOESN'T ALWAYS STAY IN VEGAS...

DAs have murders, rapes, molested children, robberies, and burglaries to deal with. Bigamy happens quite a bit. But, if you think it through, DAs realize that convicting the bigamist often ends up hurting the spouse as well as the bigamist.

You need money to start a new life. You can't get that if the guy is in jail or spending his money for a criminal lawyer.

Let's think this through:

Q: What is best for you?
A: Getting as far away from this a**hole as possible and starting a new life.

Q: How is the best way to accomplish that?
A: Cut all your ties with him as quickly and as neatly as possible. You want out *NOW*. No hugs, no kisses, no forwarding address. Just "good bye, thanks for the check, have a nice life."

Right now, you can get him to go along with about anything. So, use it to get what is best for you and then don't look back.

You can, of course, try to get charges filed. But, the DA isn't like the guys on TV. They are overworked and underpaid. And, while what happened to you is bad, it isn't the tragedy that a DA sees every day. (E.g., a 2 year old with multiple cigarette burns, a mother pimping her 11 year old daughter, a son murdering his mother with a golf club.) On the relative scale of criminal conduct where "1" is a parking ticket and "10" is mass murder, bigamy clocks in at a "2".

Don't agree to lie for him...that is obstruction of justice.

After listening to Jimmy Mac, I have to agree with him. I was trying to say what you said at the end of your post about not trying to make a deal...that he would sign everything if she keeps quiet. I think that is bad, and might fall into the obstruction of justice. That is what I meant about striking up her own deal.

But I do agree that him in jail makes her miss out on the financial benefits of him out of jail. Of course, the idea of him in jail does appeal to most BSs! But I have to defer to Jimmy Mac on the issue of the DAs not havign time on this.

So, pursue legal action thru your attorney and get what is due you. Then get away from this guy as fast as possible.

In His arms.

All,

Thank you for your responses. I do appreciated them.

I am still weighing my options/next move. I haven't heard back from the divorce attorney yet.

I left some pretty nasty messages for WH yesterday. (Yeah, my BS anger came roaring out. Of couse, it's anger trying to mask the hurt.)

Anyway, I don't know what WH would agree to now because he is angry – angry that I found out, angry that I'm angry. You know. It's amazing how quickly things turn: Just a few days agao, he texted me saying how sorry he was that he had not been in touch because he had been so busy at work. (Getting "married," I think he meant to say.) When he called me yesterday, he was as sweet as could be until I confronted him about the "marriage."

I called Vegas DA's office just to see. I was passed around the police department. Apparently, the sexual assault division handles bigamy cases. The dectective I needed to speak with was gone; they gave me his voice message, but I didn't leave a message.

So there you have it. I guess I have made some moves, but nothing big yet.

Oh, yeah. More news: I believe OW may also still be married. I found records of marital property that she sold with her husband in April. She had said she had been divorced for a couple of years. I can't find any divorce records for her.

But can you legally divorce a man who is married to another woman already?

This is soooo murky for me....

Pep,

Why wouldn't I be able to divorce him? OW is the one not legally married to him. Her "marriage" is invalid. WH obviously lied on the form saying he had never been married or wasn't married.

I guess you're right ... I feel unsettled about this ... it feels pretty dirty and sordid ... like their filth has contaminated your divorce ...

I suppose I am reacting emotionally about this issue and my logic has been downsized <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> LOL

Yes, I told WH yesterday just how SICK and UGLY their relationship was.

I told him that she will never have the man I had. The man I married was beautiful, happy, loving, caring, faithful, full of heart, full of integrity, full of life...I could go on.

The man whom OW "married" is ugly, unhappy, unloving, uncaring, dead inside (by his own admission, I might add), unfaithful, without integrity...you get the picture.

In the beginning, I so felt like I was losing everything. Now, I see how he is on the losing end. He loses a wife who has been loving, faithful and values marriage. He gets a new "wife" who lies and cheats and has proven she has no regard for marriage.

Hi,

Sorry for your stitch.

Do you have a marriage license?

Can you contact the Jamacian government and get a copy to prove that you were married? If your husband contest that you were married I would think you would need proof. If you can't prove that you were legally married, it is going to be hard to get a legal divorce I would think. Your state may have common-law marriage statutes on the book, and if that is the case, you probably don't have to worry regardless of you possessing documentation.

Good luck.

Comfortably Numb,

Hi. Yes, I have a certified copy from the Jamaican government.

And like I said before, if we weren't married, then what the heck were we doing filing income taxes as a married couple. I think we'd be in just a bit of trouble if we weren't married.

Well then your husband is just a nutter.

I wasn't going to say anthing about the taxes until I knew a little more.

All I can say is "Yuck." Why couldn't he wait to marry this OW until you two were divorced? I think he is in for a bit of trouble when you haul him into court for the divorce.

Yeah, I know. Just a couple of weeks or so ago, WH was tellling me that he didn't know what love is and that he didn't love OW. (We were talking because after a year, I'm ready to move on, and I'm done with Plan A and Plan B.)

I honestly don't know what goes on in WH's mind any more. He is not the same man. It's sad for me to see. When I talked to him, I could tell he is sad and depressed. He moved to be closer to his family, but he doesn't even see them much. He is lost. I tried helping him find his way, but I can do no more.