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This list represents a set of books NOT written by the Harley's... but have been read by and recommended by one or more members of the forum. It has been put into broad categories and alphabetized within category by "title".

Any more recommendations/comments are always welcome...
Suggestions for new categories, books, etc. also welcome...

Contact OneGoing at onegoing@hotmail.com for new books to add to the list, or to identify books that have gone out of print.
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Infidelity:

• Affair-Proof Your Marriage :[/b] Understanding, Preventing and Surviving an Affair by Lana Staheli
• [b]After the Affair :[/b] Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms, Phd
• [b]Dumped!: [/b]A Survival Guide for the Woman Who's Been Left by the Man She Loved by Sally Warren, Andrew Thompson (Contributor)
• [b]Every Heart Restored :[/b] A Wife's Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband's Sexual Sin by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, Mike Yorkey
• [b]Infidelity :[/b] A Survival Guide by Don-David, Phd. Lusterman
• [b]Men Who Can't Be Faithful by Carol Botwin
• NOT Just Friends :[/b] Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley Glass, Jean Coppock Staeheli
• [b]Private Lies :[/b] Infidelity and Betrayal of Intimacy by Frank Pittman
• [b]Straight Talk About Betrayal:[/b] A Self-Help Guide for Couples Donna R. Bellafiore
• [b]Surviving Infidelity :[/b] Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain by Rona Subotnik, Gloria Harris
• [b]Torn Asunder :[/b] Recovering from Extramarital Affairs by Dave Carder, Duncan Jaenicke, David A. Seamands
• [b]The Walk-Out Woman :[/b] When Your Heart is Empty and Your Dreams Are Lost by Dr. Steve Stephens, Alice Gray
• [b]When The One You Love Wants To Leave[/b] by Donald R. Harvey
• [b]When Your Lover Is a Liar :[/b] Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal by Susan Forward, Donna Frazier

[b]Divorce/Separation:

• Case Against Divorce by Diane Medved
• Divorce Busting :[/b] A Revolutionary and Rapid Program for Staying Together by Michele Weiner-Davis
• [b]Divorce Remedy:[/b] The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage by Michele Weiner-Davis
• [b]Hope for the Separated :[/b] Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed by Gary D. Chapman
• [b]Why Marriages Succeed or Fail :[/b] And How You Can Make Yours Last by John Gottman, Nan Silver (Contributor)

[b]Divorce/Separation (for Children):

• But... What About Me! (How It Feels To Be a Kid in Divorce) 2nd Edition[/b] by Bonnie Doss, Joyce Spindle
• [b]The Divorce Express by Paula Danziger
• How It Feels When Parents Divorce[/b] by Jill Krementz
• [b]It's Not the End of the World[/b] by Judy Blume
• [b]It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear :... & Young Children During Divorce by Vicki Lansky

[b]Building/Rebuilding Relationships:

• Back from Betrayal :[/b] Recovering from His Affairs by Jennifer Schneider
• [b]Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud, Dr John Townsend
• The Dance of Deception : A G...; Truth-Telling in Women's Relationships by Harriet G. Lerner
• Distant Partner :[/b] How to Tear Down Emotional Walls and Communicate With Your Husband by Les Carter
• [b]Fighting for Your Marriage :...ng Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love by Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, Susan L. Blumberg, Dean S. Edell
• First Aid for a Wounded Marriage[/b] by Marilyn Phillipps
• [b]For Better or for Best by Gary Smalley
• The Forgiving Marriage :[/b] Resolving Anger and Resentment and Rediscovering Each Other by Paul W. Dr. Coleman
• [b]Getting Back Together : How ...p With Your Old Partner and Make It Last by Bettie Youngs Bilicki (Contributor), Masa Goetz
• Going the Distance :[/b] Finding and Keeping Lifelong Love by David L. Geisinger (Contributor), Lonnie Garfield Barbach
• [b]The Heart of Commitment by Gary D. Chapman
• Hope for the Separated :[/b] Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed by Scott Stanley
• [b]How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together[/b] by Susan Page
• [b]How to Get Your Lover Back by Blase Harris
• A Lasting Promise :[/b] A Christian Guide to Fighting for Your Marriage by Scott Stanley, Daniel W. Trathen, B. Milton Bryan
• [b]Love Is a Decision by Gary Smalley, John T. Trent
• Love Must Be Tough :[/b] Proven Hope for Families in Crisis by James C. Dobson
• [b]Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley
• Men Are from Mars, Women Are fro...ting What You Want in Your Relationships by John Gray
• [b]Picking Up the Pieces by Clyde Colvin Besson
• Rebuilding : When Your Relationship Ends[/b] by Bruce Fisher
• [b]Rebuilding Your Broken World/With Study Guide[/b] by Gordon MacDonald
• [b]Relationship Rescue [/b]: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting With Your Partner by Philip C. McGraw
• [b]The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work[/b] by John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver
• [b]The Solo Partner :[/b] Repairing Your Relationship on Your Own by Phil Deluca
• [b]We Can Work It Out : How to ... and Strengthen Your Love for Each Other by Clifford I. Notarius, Howard J. Markman
• When a Mate Wants Out :[/b] Secrets for Saving a Marriage by Jim Conway, Sally Conway
• [b]When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages[/b] by Leslie Parrott III
• [b]Winning Your Husband Back : Before It's Too Late[/b] by Gary Smalley, Greg Smalley
• [b]Winning Your Wife Back Before It's Too Late :[/b] A Game Plan for Reconciling Your Marriage by Gary Smalley, Greg Smalley, Deborah Smalley

[b]Loving:

• Do Yourself a Favor : Love Your Wife[/b] by H. Page Williams
• [b]The Five Love Languages :[/b] How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman
• [b]Getting the Love You Want :[/b] A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix
• [b]The Heart of Commitment by Scott Stanley
• In the Meantime :[/b] Finding Yourself and the Love You Want by Iyanla Vanzant
• [b]Keeping the Love You Find :[/b] A Guide for Singles by Harville Hendrix
• [b]Learning to Live With the Love of Your Life : And Loving It![/b] by by Neil Clark Warren
• [b]Love Is a Decision by Gary Smalley, John T. Trent
• Love Life for Every Married Couple[/b] by Ed. Wheat, M.D.
• [b]Loving Choices :[/b] A Growing Experience by Bruce Fisher, Nina Hart
• [b]Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley
• Passages of Marriage by Frank Minirth, Mary Alice Minirth, Brian Newman

Passion:

• 101 Nights of Grrreat Romance :[/b]How to Make Love With Your Clothes On by Laura Corn
• [b]101 Nights of Grrreat Sex:[/b] Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun-Loving Couples by Laura Corn
• [b]A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau
• Light His Fire [/b]: How to Keep Your Man Passionately and Hopelessly in Love by Ellen Kreidman
• [b]Passionate Marriage :[/b] Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships by David Schnarch
• [b]Sex Begins in the Kitchen :[/b] Because Love Is an All-Day Affair by Kevin Leman
• [b]What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew About Men[/b] by Patrick M. Morley
• [b]What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women[/b] by James C. Dobson

[b]Prayer/Faith:

• Experiencing God Day by Day [/b]: A Devotional and Journal by Henry T. Blackaby
• [b]Holding on to Heaven [/b]: While Your Husband Goes Through ****** by Neal Connie
• [b]The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian, Michael Omartian
• The Self-Confident Woman by Janet Congo
• Streams in the Desert [/b]: 366 Daily Devotional Readings by L. B. Cowman
• [b]Touchpoints :[/b] God's Answers for Your Daily Needs ...Tyndale House Pub
• [b]Way of the Cross by Roy Hession
• What Would Buddha Do? :[/b] 101 Answers to Life's Daily Dilemmas by Franz Aubrey Metcalf
• [b]When God Doesn't Make Sense by James Dobson

Parenting/Family:

• Common Sense Parenting : A ...onsible Kids and Creating Happy Families by Raymond V. Burke, Ronald W. Herron, Father Flanagan's Boys' Home, Ray Burke Ph. D.
• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective...iful Family Culture in a Turbulent World by Stephen R. Covey, Sandra Merrill Covey
• [b]Successful Family Ties by Ron Ball
• The 10 Greatest Gifts I Give My Children :[/b] Parenting from the Heart by Steven W. Vannoy

[b]Forgiveness:

• The Art of Forgiving :[/b] When You Need to Forgive and Don't Know How by Lewis B. Smedes
• [b]The Choosing to Forgive Workbook[/b] by Les Carter, Frank Minirth
• [b]Forgive and Forget [/b]: Healing the Hurts We Don't Deserve by Lewis B. Smedes

[b]Anger Management:

• Anger : How to Live With and Without It[/b] by Albert Ellis
• [b]Angry All the Time :[/b] An Emergency Guide to Anger Control by Ron Potter-Efron, Ronald T. Potter-Efron
• [b]Getting the Best of Your Anger[/b] by Les Carter

[b]Codependancy:

• Codependent No More :[/b] How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
• [b]The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
• Women Who Love Too Much :[/b] When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change by John Amodeo, Charles L. Whitfield

[b]Sexual Addiction - Serial Cheating:

• Back from Betrayal :[/b] Recovering from His Affairs by Jennifer Schneider
• [b]Bold Love by Dr. Dan B. Allender, Dr. Tremper Longman III, Dan B. Allender, Tremper Longman
• Don't Call It Love :[/b] Recovery from Sexual Addiction by by Patrick J. Carnes Ph.D.
• [b]Every Man's Battle :[/b] Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time by Stephen Arterburn, et al
• [b]Every Woman's Battle :[/b] Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment by Stephen Arterburn (Afterword), Shannon Ethridge
• [b]False Intimacy :[/b] Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction by Harry W. Schaumburg, Harry W. Shaumburg
• [b]Living With Your Husband's Secret Wars[/b] by Marsha Means
• [b]Love and Betrayal by John Amodeo, Charles L. Whitfield
• Men s Secret Wars by Patrick A. Means
• Not Even a Hint :[/b] Guarding Your Heart Against Lust by Joshua Harris
• [b]Out of the Shadows :[/b] Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick J. Carnes
• [b]Sex Lies and Forgiveness :[/b] Couples Speaking Out on Healing from Sex Addiction by Jennifer P. Schneider, Burt Schneider
• [b]The Wounded Heart:[/b] Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Dan B. Allender, Larry Crabb

[b]Self-Help:

• A Guide to Rational Living by Melvin Powers
• If Success Is a Game, These Are the Rules :[/b] Ten Rules for a Fulfilling Career and Life by Cherie Carter, Ph.D. Scott
• [b]Men in Midlife Crisis by Jim Conway
• Never Be Lied to Again : How...or Less in Any Conversation or Situation by David J. Lieberman
• Women in Midlife Crisis by Jim Conway, Sally Conway
• Your Husband's Mid-Life Crisis[/b] by Sally Conway

[b]Catholic issues:

• Annulment :[/b] Your Chance to Remarry Within the Catholic Church by Joseph P. Zwack
• [b]With Open Arms :[/b] Catholics, Divorce, & Remarriage by John Hosie

[b]Miscellaneous:

• [b]The Lucifer Principle :[/b] A Scientific Expedition into the Forces of History by Howard K. Bloom
• [b]Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to St... Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum
• [b]What If I Married the Wrong Person?[/b] by Richard Matteson, Janis Long Harris

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May I also suggest:

"The Walk-Out Woman" by Dr Steve Stephens and Alice Gray

I read this book (cover to cover in one night) and thought my WW wrote it! The quotes were almost verbatum to what my wife was saying and feeling.

Synopsis: Authors compared notes on 60+ women who either walked away from their M, or were seriously considering walking out. A real eye-opener, especially for me being the BS (male). Has Christian influence but does not use the Bible as a hammer. Gives excellent insight as to why women walk away from a marriage. Also has some exercises at the end of each chapter that will challenge the women reading this book to reconsider.

Highly recommended... now if the WW would only pick it up and read it <sigh>.

p47d

Thanks OneGoing - a great posting, esp with the hyperlinks to the book.

Here's another one recommended by our MC. It has workbooks, too.


When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages by Leslie Parrott III

I read thru the list twice so I hope this isn't already listed but I found this book to be tremendously helpful in many ways:

"NOT Just Friends" by Shirley Glass.(Under the Infidelity list).

O

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