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abbreviation[/i]&quo...mp;amp;quote&sb=1&page=1References:General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)[/u]...OneGoing....12/29/2000
[u]WAT's Quick Start Guidelines for Betrayed Spouses[/u]...worthatry....7/10/2001
[u]A Recovery Guide for Wayward Wives (/Spouses)[/u]...dorry....8/11/2005
[u]Acronyms...OneGoing....12/29/2000
Other Useful Sites...OneGoing...12/29/2000
"Snoop Tricks for Betrayed Spouses"[/u]...NotQuiteOverIt...2/4/2000
[u]Netiquette and helpful suggestions[/u]...Heartpain...3/22/2002
Books/Book Reviews/Comments:[u]non-MB Books...OneGoing....12/29/2000
Private Lies...mickey65....9/7/1999
Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus[/u]...Hummingbird....12/16/1999
[u]Readers of "Love Must be Tough" - Please Reply[/u]...Roll Me Away....12/1/1999
[u]'After the Affair' by Janis Abrahms Spring[/u]...loving hubby....2/13/2000
[u] "Torn Asunder"...LadyK....4/17/2000
General:Some suggestions....books and other "stuff"...from an old-timer[/u]...HGBrawner...8/12/1999
[u]Suse Pontificates...suse...12/9/1999
ALL MIGHT FIND INTERESTING!!![/u]...avance...2/3/2000
[u]What is the relationship like between a WS and the OP? What everyone should know... [/u]...Genie29...3/4/2000
[u]Help for betrayers who want to stop, but can't... [/u]...BrokenButNotCrushed...3/30/2000
[u]lostva help me...tootrusting/lostva...5/19/2000
The Three Myths that pervade society![/u]...Sheba...9/7/2000
[u]What Changed My Mind...justhere...11/13/2000
What you've learned from marriage..[/u]...Kayleigh...11/18/2000
[u]Who is this person I married?[/u]...HarryHat...12/5/2000
[u]yes,THIS STUFF DOES WORK!...alias...1/31/2001
Request/advice for newbies...Dazed and Confused...4/13/2001
Never tire from doing what you KNOW is right[/u]...Sir Hurts Alot...4/24/2001
[u]recovery thoughts for newbies, including Isb[/u]...Jenny...4/24/2001
[u]Marriage Builders......WilliamJ...5/18/2001
The difference between the Fog and Love[/u]...Redon...6/20/2001
[u]WAT's Quick Start Guidelines for Betrayed Spouses[/u]...worthatry...7/10/2001
[u]New, frustrated, need info?? Look here...[/u]...K...3/30/2002
[u]If you never read another post, PLEASE read this one![/u]...LaurieC...8/21/2002
Emotional Needs:[u]Emotional needs vs. "wants"[/u]...HGBrawner...3/4/2000
[u]EN: Recreational companionship[/u]...airheart...3/15/2000
[u]love workbook (teaching HNHN)[/u]...lizam...1/12/2000
[u]Gary Chapman's Love Languages[/u]...SueB...4/27/2000
Reduce/Eliminate Love Busters:[u]Please remind me why I'm still trying[/u]...Faithfully/trustntruth....8/16/1999
[u]PLEASE "LISTEN" For everyone READ[/u]...camjon....12/22/1999
[u]How to say my feelings without it being a LB[/u]...Lora/trustntruth...4/10/2000
[u]ANGER Management...weep...10/6/2000
Letter to OW...LearningLife...2/27/2001
Before/After Discovery-Day(D-Day)
:What lying betrayers have said....[/u]...Sweetpea....9/15/1999
[u]50 signs your spouse is having an affair (All found on this board)[/u]...Triumph2....2/23/2000
[u]A competent well thought out response please[/u]...john meade....5/10/2000
[u]2Sad...this is REALLY GOOD!(Betrayer's decisions)[/u]...lighthouse....5/16/2000
[u]What I have learned since d-day.[/u]...OneDay...4/19/2001
[u]Good Morning All(to WSs from a former WS)[/u]...trueheart...7/16/2001
[u]Lies and More Lies...Larry178.. 9/4/2005
Legal Support:USLaw.com...LMS(Tired Lady)...4/14/2000
Children:Cute Things our Kids Did or Said - Let's smile today.[/u]...Essyboo...2/24/2000
[u]what do you tell the kids when you get tough??[/u]...Claudia103...3/7/2000
[u]If you think infidelity doesn't affect the kids....[/u]...wasstubborn...3/10/2000
[u]Should I tell the kids the truth???[/u]...Keridwen7...3/16/2000
[u]How "healthy" is it to stay married for the kids?[/u]...Crushed...4/13/2000
[u]Horrible situation, please pray.[/u]...-...5/18/2000
[u]recommendations from child Psych.[/u]...-...6/7/2000
[u]FYI: Article on divorce and children...[/u]...SoTired2000...10/6/2000
[u]Question list for Gem...cdcollins...3/12/2001
for all divorcing/divorced PARENTS[/u]...Princess Buttercup...3/26/2002
Medication/Stress/Depression/MLC/Grief:[u]Medication has negative effects[/u]...Suzy Q...9/14/1999
[u]Medication for depression/anxiety Please give info[/u]...Pahakissa1...11/29/1999
[u]K - anxiety, OCD and marriages[/u]...Francis...12/3/1999
[u]Cognitive Behavior Therapy for Marrriages (1)[/u]...Francis...12/30/1999
[u]Cognitive Behavior Therapy in Marriages 2[/u]...Francis...12/30/1999
[u]Five Steps To An Almost Stress-Free Life By Zig Ziglar[/u]...hopefull_1...3/7/2000
[u]TS, DT, KAM and anyone else who can use this....(Depression)[/u]...Francis...3/8/2000
[u]Antidepressant Remeron Any one on this?????[/u]...bc...4/10/2000
[u]Paxil Withdrawl...Triumph2...5/22/2000
Has anyone tried Wellbutrin?...wings...6/20/2000
Prozac?...........momma...6/23/2000
5 Stages of Grieving......Orchid...3/26/2001
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Stages of Mid-Life Crisis...Cali...1/10/2002
question about anti-d's??...nikko...4/3/2002
Freaking on Wellbutrin!...Roughneck...4/3/2002
STDs:Affair and STD...judee4u...3/2/2000
Is it wrong to ask Spouse to be tested for STDs?[/u]...Tulip...3/3/2000
[u]STD Alert...weirded out...3/15/2000
Questions about STDs......Anybody ?[/u]...CJB80...3/15/2000
[u]STD's What should I look for...Reborn...8/28/2000
Counseling:Will Counseling Help?...mickey65...9/7/1999
Question for K (or anyone that knows : ) )[/u]...Susan/K...2/24/2000
[u]Counselling...wasstubborn...3/16/2000
Christian Counseling...NSR...3/25/2000
Finding a counselor???...teddy bear/K...4/18/2000
looking for a counselor...zorweb/K...5/11/2001
Plan A: TODAY I LOST IT!!!...ThisAlex/Genie29...12/5/1999
Question for Plan A Veterans...lostva/K to quandry...2/2/2000
When is enough enough ?...Bozos_ Deb...2/4/2000...
(related thread)To, Sir Hurts Alot...TomH...4/19/2000
Plan A is Power!...az allison...7/31/2000
Plan A versus Doormat ...Everhopeful...8/10/2000
Question for the MB Veterans(Honesty) - Let's Agree to Disagree Here[/u]...Carolina Belle...8/22/2000
[u]Length of time for Plan A.....let's have a discussion![/u]...mthrrhbard...1/6/2001
[u]The Misapplication of Plan A...Distressed...2/27/2001
This is the question ...."Who the heck ARE you?" [/u]...Pepperband...4/4/2002
[u]Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)...NSR...current
The Carrot and the Stick of Plan A[/u]...Pepperband... 11/9/2005
Plan B:[u]Do WS's Ever REALLY Come Back after plan B, or is that just in the book?[/u]...Bernzini...8/11/2000
[u]Plan B isn't for Wimps!...Resilient...9/9/2000
Sample PLAN B Letters...Spacecase...8/8/2002
Plan B - 101 (2nd ed.)...NSR...current
Withdrawal from OP:Calling all betrayers: stories of withdrawal-how long? How bad?[/u]...Sad4Now...8/17/1999
[u]For Schizzo: a reply to your question[/u](When WS Confesses)...BrokenButNotCrushed...3/18/2000
[u]Withdrawl Support...."THE LIST"[/u]...NoMas...5/11/2000
[u]A testimonial about "no contact"[/u]...rockaway...1/20/2001
[u]Why I think the WS should quit their job if they work with the OP[/u]...new_beginning...4/22/2001
Recovery:[u]How to rebuild my spouse's trust?[/u]...redman...8/23/1999
[u]How do you deal with "TRIGGERS?"[/u]...NoTrust...9/7/1999
[u]Can I forgive?????...indy032...1/31/2000
How do you define "recovery"?[/u]...2sad4words...2/10/2000
[u]For those who may need a little inspiration... almost 1 yr. and counting[/u]...Genie29...2/25/2000
[u]Truths I learned through my spouse's affair...[/u]...BrokenButNotCrushed...3/12/2000
[u]Things my husband did to rebuild trust[/u]...HGBrawner...3/17/2000
[u]Making New Memories...HGBrawner...3/25/2000
When Triggers Stop Being Triggers[/u]...wasstubborn...3/26/2000
[u]on knowing the "truth" [/u]...loveWASblind=lWb/popeye...5/9/2000
[u]The apology letter from my husband[/u]...Crushed...5/18/2000
[u]An amazing breakthrough!...lostva...5/23/2000
Where is the beaming face icon???[/u]...schizzo...5/24/2000
[u]Forgiveness........just_me...6/5/2000
Second year in recovery...Kat1...6/26/2000
Post-recovery musings - Plans A and B[/u]...Heartpain...2/25/2002
[u]Is the Debt Paid In Full?...Twyla...3/29/2002
Sample NO CONTACT letters...Spacecase...7/11/2002
Success Stories:Sadness,Pain,Regret, Is it worth Reconciliation?[/u]...Paul Moyers...9/29/1999
[u]Two years today....I remember when[/u]...HGBrawner...2/24/2000
[u]Update....we need encouragement and advice[/u]...lostva...2/28/1999
[u]A good news story...hanora...3/9/2000
A story of hope... How I survived my spouse's unfaithfulness[/u]...BrokenButNotCrushed...3/9/2000
[u]The sunny side of the street...,a conversation that brought much closure[/u]...mthrrhbard...5/9/2000
[u]Successful reunion after affair?[/u]...kuuipo...5/11/2000
[u]An amazing breakthrough!...lostva...5/23/2000
Where is the beaming face icon??? Most likely a long update.[/u]...schizzo...5/24/2000
[u]From the D/D forum to Recovery...[/u]...Lor (Lor)...5/26/2000
[u]hi all, update.......mercy...5/28/2000
She put the wedding ring back on - it does happen[/u]...SamH...5/30/2000
[u]Update and words of thanks to all[/u]...InShock...10/11/2000
[u]3 Years.........Success Story![/u]...Almost Happy...1/17/2001
[u]MB Success------3 years later with Thanks!![/u]...Nerlycrzy...1/18/2001
[u]Winners and Losers...Distressed...4/12/2001
Marriage Builders Works. I'm Proof[/u]...kalote...4/24/2001
[u]Leilana's Success Story...Leilana(scroll down)...5/6/2001
Hello! Remember me, anyone? There is hope![/u]...bluerodeoboy...5/8/2002
Separation: and
Divorce:[u]To the wafflers...Divorce is NOT an Option![/u]...Pilot's wife...10/31/1999
[u]Oooooh!! A Place to Call Home... [/u]...Sheba...3/29/2000
[u]Divorce Related Web Sites...lonelymom...5/11/2000
Time Mag. Sept 25 - What Divorce does to kids[/u]...weirded out...9/19/2000
[u]Divorce was a bad mistake...Ruined Life...4/3/2002
Abuse: (Various)
H is an alcoholic and some on Alcoholic's board say to not put up with affair now what?[/u]...bc...6/7/2000
[u]Help for betrayers/abusers...TheStudent...10/14/2000
Therapist says H deals with his Alcoholism, or there is no chance for getting out of[/u]...burnedspouse...1/3/2001
[u]Verbal Abuse - How Much, How Handled?[/u]...Sisyphus...1/30/2001
[u]Verbal Abuse - Definition Inviting Comment[/u]...Sisyphus...1/31/2001
[u]Question for Kenneth-Abuse vs. bipolar disorder[/u]...StillHers...2/19/2001
[u]Can someone help me understand alcoholism?[/u]...gsd...5/25/2001
[u]Anyone else dealing w/childhood abuse issues in recovery?[/u]...mynewme...9/8/2001
[u]Do you think affairs are as bad as physical abuse?[/u]...Persevering...10/1/2001
Plan A/B over... new beginnings:[u]There is life after divorce!...RWD...3/12/2000
A settlement finally -- divorce pending.[/u]...Animac/ZAPFT...4/19/2000
[u]When does Plan B end?... (long)[/u]...NSR...7/29/2000
Inspirational Messages:[u]Something for everyone, especially the newbies[/u]...Empty Shell....12/2/1999
[u]This made me feel good........lostva...12/4/1999
God's Mercy...Hope Hope Hope...12/4/1999
Friends... The Wings of Faith[/u]...NSR...12/8/1999
[u]Faith...Chris (CA123)...1/25/2000
Please all read ... Lessons In Life[/u]...jendan69...2/4/2000
[u]I sent you a message, a helicopter and a boat....[/u]...Guard...3/14/2000
[u]Friends... Live Each Day to the Fullest[/u]...NSR...3/22/2000
[u]For Single Dads...NewMan...4/11/2000
Friends... The Road of Life....NSR...4/13/2000
Reluctantly... I'm here...NSR/Keridwen7...4/18/2000
I ran into a stranger......ThisAlex...5/10/2000
some words to ponder......beth28...5/17/2000
The Art of Marriage...pondvj...5/24/2000
something worth reading...falsely accused...5/25/2000
Encouragement: Sometimes you have to be a mule[/u]...SKM...4/12/2001
[u]Worth the read... (Collection of Motivational quotes)[/u]...Husband2You...7/19/2001
Inspirational Stories/Songs/Poems/Faith:[u]Story of Forgiving - For everyone[/u]...Liz Smith(POGP)...11/21/1999
[u]...never that far.....NSR(Christmas)...12/12/1999
Saints...NSR...1/15/2000
IMPORTANT...soulloss(DESIDERATA)/WilliamJ(IF)...2/12/2000
Two stories for wayward spouses with children.[/u]...hopefull_1...2/26/2000
[u]WELL WORTH READING.....even if it is a bit long[/u]...azhootie...3/6/2000
[u]GOD IS ABLE TO HEAL THE PAIN OF DIVORCE[/u]...azhootie...3/17/2000
[u]The gift...(Patient Love)/NSR...3/17/2000
Dear God...LadyK...3/17/2000
His Wife, Her Husband.. here is another...[/u]...mercy...4/7/2000
[u]Prayer...Feelings of Guilt and Shame[/u]...NSR...4/13/2000
[u]The Story of Life/Very Profound!! Must Read[/u]...Tyra...5/9/2000
[u]May have read this before, but it is pretty good.[/u]...Paul Moyers...5/15/2000
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[u]Between Wakefulness and Dreams - Poem(same as above)[/u]...Stonehenge...5/20/2000
[u]A Prayer for Angels...buffy...5/31/2000
A Little More Inspiration for the Weekend[/u]...lonelymom...6/2/2000
[u]My Gift To All Of You-Chicken Soup For The Soul[/u]...heartache...6/13/2000
[u]FA: I found my bible......K...7/21/2000
interesting link...hopefull_1...7/23/2000
MB Concepts in Christian Scripture[/u]...NSR...8/26/2000
[u]Something worth reading.......Butterfly...10/10/2000
For Christians - Re: Forgiveness[/u]...SKM...1/17/2001
[u]Hypocrisy in the first degree - help me Catholics?[/u]...worthatry...4/15/2001
[u]Bible Verse = Forgiveness...ZZZ4991...5/4/2001
What the early Church said about conditions for divorce[/u]...SpiritofHope...5/9/2001
[u]faith as related to H/W relation, etc.[/u]...gobyfish...5/20/2001
[u]This may give you some comfort and some hope. Divine Mercy Sunday[/u]...God is in Control...3/28/2002
[u]A Prayer of Forgiveness...maggierose...4/12/2002
Are you feeling the heat of the fire? [/u]...Free Indeed...4/17/2002
[u]Timely story for days when things seem bleak[/u]...ForeverHers...11/3/2005
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[u]http://www.interviewwiththedevil.com/[/u]...ForeverHers...11/3/2005
[u]lyrics that say it all...Shul...7/5/2004
Ongoing Inspirationals:Inspiration...NSR...5/23/2000
Timely story for days when things seem bleak[/u]...ForeverHers...9/6/2002
Quotes:[u]What YOUR husband told me......[/u]...QueenofFools...3/20/2000
[u]Plan A Questions - Encouragement Needed [/u]...NSR...2/2/2000
Whoever is attempting the Plan A(betrayed or wayward)...should understand that *THEIR* spouse(wayward or betrayed) defines what is a Love Buster![u]PASSION revisited ...jamie-lee...2/2/2000
EXCUSES ARE BORN TO KILL RESPONSIBILITYHe came ALL the way back!!!...Troublec...2/26/2000
Nothing destroys a romantic relationship more quickly than for a person to beg for mercy...
by TroublecThe past is the past; however, we cannot change what we do not acknowledge....
by FianceeNeed advice--why try anymore?[/u]...jamie-lee...3/16/2000
If you don't have an afair with your wife(spouse) someone else will...
by Getting_Better[u]Inspirational Quote...LadyK...4/6/2000
Fears over tomorrow and regrets over yesterday are twin thieves that rob us of the moment...
by LadyKTo Lighten the Mood: What is the *most* romantic thing your spouse has done for you?[/u]...Caterpillar...3/21/2000
Fun/Funny/Entertaining:[u]How to restore/destroy a marriage (fun)[/u]...Animac/vmv...8/5/1999
[u]Men are from mars, women are from....HUMOR[/u]...Sir Hurts Alot...10/11/1999
[u]These Atty's are getting on my NERVES![/u]...ceecee...12/10/1999
[u]Joke Thread...Keosha...2/28/2000
interesting theory... on the subject of religion...[/u]...soulloss...3/4/2000
[u]Some "male-bashing-humor"[/u]...NoMas...4/5/2000
[u]What Planet are my Counselors from?[/u]...wasstubborn/(NSR page 2)...4/6/2000
[u]It's A Name Game -- and I'm Dorkey Hamsterhiney!![/u]...Butterfly...4/19/2000
[u]Bit o' humor...Chris (CA123)...4/24/2000
For the Guys!! (But I LOL'd too!!)[/u]...Sheba...5/2/2000
[u]A Little Light Humor for all of Us!!!!!!![/u]...MusicMan...5/11/2000
[u]A bit of much needed comic relief....[/u]...Keridwen7...5/16/2000
[u]Infidelity Limerick Challenge!![/u]...2sad4words...5/18/2000
Miscellaneous:[u]Are women less forgiving than men?[/u]...Essyboo...11/11/1999
[u]Not all OP are pieces of trash[/u]...new_beginning...2/13/2000
[u]The forum cycles with Giver & Taker[/u]...NSR...3/25/2000
[u]Character, Courage, and Conscience[/u]...Troublec...4/6/2000
[u]Need a Psychology Major here, and please hurry(MMPI-2 Test)[/u]...trustntruth...4/20/2000
[u]SO MUCH HATE IN MB!!!...ThisAlex...4/25/2000
I don't believe this works - sorry[/u]...energizer_bunny...8/28/2000
[u]Vasectomy?...Thronx...10/31/2000
Equality in Marriage...711...2/26/2001
[u]To Be or Not to Be -- Parents???[/u]...Hawthorne...3/21/2001
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