H has been really busy at work lately and I keep telling him "if there is anything I can do, let me know." I never really bothered to come up with any ideas because I have been trying to give him space. But H asked me last night what kind of things I would do for him.

After reading the post about what one H did for his W during the week before Halloween, I decided maybe some people here could give me some ideas.

H manages a wine bar downtown. They are doing inventory this week so he is working extraordinarily long hours. He got off work last night at around 2:30 in the morning.

I can't do anything here at the house for H, because he has been staying with his friend for the past 2 months. I would like to suggest doing something for him at his job, but I am not sure how that will fly. People there know what is going on and so he is uncomfortable with me being there.

Does anyone have any ideas?

When I'm working long hours, I like "comic relief". Just something that you can look at, laugh for a few minutes, and then get back to work.

Also, there is nothing that beats a snack after work. Send him some cookies, or tell him to drop by for a piece of pie after (or before) work.

I sent him a funny e-card the other day.

The snack after work isn't really possible. Where he is staying right now is about 40 minutes away from the house and on the complete opposite side from where he works so it is not likely that he would come over for cookies or pie at 2 in the morning.

H is working until close again tonight, so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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Send him a letter:

Darling,

I know there is a lot of pressure in your job and in your life right now. I wish I could do something to help you handle it. It’s just so hard when you are not near me.

If you want we can for this week just behave as if nothing has happened. You can come home after work. We can watch TV and just cuddle. No words. No arguments. No tomorrow.
If you come late you can slip into our bed. We can cuddle. You can hold me and I can hold you. If we want to we can make love.

In the morning you can give me a peck on the cheek. Don’t have to say a word. Don’t’ even have to talk about coming back. Just as we can try to act as if nothing ever went wrong in the past we can behave as if this encounter ever happened. Just come if you want to. My door is never locked to you. Ever.

Bigger,

I would love to send something like that, but H doesn't want to come over to the house and he hates the thought of acting like nothing happened.

Any other ideas?

Call some place to cater and have a nice meal delivered to him there. Does he like things like a shower massage, foot massage, aromatherapy, etc.? Or maybe one of those pads you can put on the back of the chair that massages your back (he could sit down at work with that during breaks). Have UPS deliver something relaxing he could really use, and that he would really like, after working these long hours.

I would really try to go for something that he likes but only *you* can do for him.

Make a bunch of his favorite cookies, and drop them off.