hello,

Been a busy week. The latest news is good news. WW is really making progress, and that means WE are making progress. It took a few tries, but we are starting to get the hang of POJA. I am keeping my LB's in check, and have really scaled back the amount of personal stuff that I discuss with women online. Mostly because things are going well, but also in part due to the reccomendations here.

We are talking more (really conversating!!!). We are making plans for the future. This is big one for me, in that it shows a serious committment from her. Previously she didn't want to give up her job and her life in GA to move away with me, but now we are looking at moving to AZ. She is starting to think more in terms of "US" instead of her and I. We have a MC session tonight (tonight for me / this morning for her...). Hopefully it goes well.

Aside from that, i should be going home in about two months!!!! She is still afraid of how she will feel. I know I still love her deeply. I tell her i dont expect everything to be normal again when i get home. I just want to get off that plane and see her there waiting for me (with my MIL whom I adore). I want to give her a hug and a kiss, and look into her eyes, and let her know that I am still by her side, and that i will ALWAYS be by her side. I think she is still afraid that I shouldn't or couldn't love her again. Not sure.

Thank you all soo much for your help. Ill continue to post, and hopefully we will get through this.

Ray,

This is great news, I am glad to hear things are looking positive. I've read several of your other posts. I am also a military wife and my H is over there and coming home in 2 months. Its great to see good news on this site when there can be so many bad on days. I really hope all goes well with you are your wife. I know how you just want to step off the plane and give her a hug and kiss. I keep having dreams of it when my H returns home....GOSH i cant wait! Take care and i hope everything works out for the both of ya!

Just got done with the MC. I think it went good. As usuall, i did most of the talking. I kept trying to pass the questions into her court, but she volleyed them back at me, and i didn't want to waste the hour asking "what do you think", "i dont know what do you think?", back and forth. Still cant get her to open up very much to me, let alone anyone else. She still lurks around here occassionally, but doesn't post. As i said our conversations are getting better, and with me here in Iraq, that is my #1 need right now, so my mood has been generally good the last few days.
Still waiting for her to read some more of HN/HN so we can discuss it some more. I dont want to push her, but she keeps promising to read it, and then finds an excuse not to. I am not too upset about it yet, but if it continues, I probably will be.

I am so happy things are going good for you and your W. Hang in there she will come around in her own way and time. I know how hard it is when your S is on the other side of the world. My H should be home by next Thurs. You guys do have a lot of things to work through but, You seem welling to do that and that is what is the most important. I hope that your W comes around soon. Keep your head high and hang in there! Good Luck