My WBF has gone to Australia for 2 weeks. He told me the purpose of the visit was to see his Mum who is very depressed after breaking her hip on Christmas Eve day last year while we were visiting. Her recovery has been very slow and she still cannot walk 200m without being in immense pain.

He left 6 days ago and promised to call or text when he got there to check on DD who had a bad viral infection when he left, so far have heard nothing from him.

The story sounded a bit fishy to me and I did some intel and discovered that he has taken OW with him and they are attending a wedding in Sydney of a friend of his that I know as well. I also found out but this is not completely confirmed that his sister is flying from Adelaide to Sydney this Sunday to meet up with him and OW in Sydney. So I do not think he is visiting his Mother and Father in Adelaide at all.

Should I do anything about this? If so what?

Should I let his parents know he is in the country but not visiting them? It is a 24 hour journey from London to Australia, and not something you do on a regular basis. Should I just let this go?

I know that if I decide to do anything, I would need to confirm that he is definitely not going to Adelaide and have had some thoughts on how to do this

I could ring his sisters house on Sunday after she has left to meet up with him. If she answers then I am wrong, if she does not answer then she maybe in Sydney or at WBF parents house with WBF and OW. If I get her husband I could pose as someone else and ask to speak to her and if not available, I could ask when she will be.

I could just ring his parents house on Sunday after he has arrived and ask to speak to WBF, and that way I will find out if he is there or if they are expecting him. But then he would know that I phoned them.

I am not sure what I would do if I did find out that he is not visiting his parents apart from reconfirm that he cannot tell the truth and he is not comfortable taking OW to meet his parent. Am I being stupid and should just let this go or should I find out as much as I can?

I would say you have a good reason to call BF parents since he told you he would call you and hasn't. If he is lieing to you now when you aren't married and has another woman on the side then I would say your chances for a long term relationship are not good though. I lived with someone too for a while and the emotional tie for me was still as strong and difficult to break as a divorce. Many people do not attatch emotionally even in marriage and at least there there are legal, moral and religious guidelines for acceptable behavior.

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