We have been married for ten years and have a 6 year old son. I am very good at work and is finicially very strong. So my wife had never been working. For the last a couple of years, she started to believe I was not very supportive when she or her family needed some extra money, and decided to work. Since she did not have experience, it was hard for her.
One day, she met someone at a bar who she thought may give her a job. She was happy at that time. This guy started to call her every day. I was not happy about that and asked her not contacting him again. Some time later, my wife told me she found a job and we both were happy about that. It was about a year ago.
Recently, I found that guy and my wife make very frequent calls. On nights I was away on business, this guy called my wife a few times, also on the early morning next day. When I asked my wife, she said there is nothing. I also question if the guy is her boos, she denied. Since then, she became cold, distant, and distracted to me. She always wanted some free space and free time to be alone. She also lost patient to our son. She became emotionaly very unstable. Every time I asked her about this issue, she just blew up and said very bad words to me. Our relationship went down to the lowest point in our life. I became very cautious fearing that I may push her away.
Once day, I heared she was talking on the phone with her friends. She talked a lot about her boss, and said her boss is trying to buy her a luxry gift. I can not toke it any more. I went downstairs, asking her stop the talking. I asked who the boss is. At the begining she tried to deny, then she admited the her boss is that guy. But she also told me that there was nothing between them. We have a long conversation that night to 3:00AM. She told me many details and complained many things I did wrong before. We both felt very strong feeling among us and for the family. That is the best moment since I found they made phone calls again. I fell that our relationship start to recover.
The second day, we both feel very well and she called me. I asked her to quit the job, but she is hestatied because the job is very important to her. Evey we do not need her to work, she can earn money by herself. She got recognition among friends, many of which work. She also feel independence and confidence. If I insist on her quiting, she just blew up again. And our relationship set back. But she did agree that if there is other job for her, she will quit.
But I am not happy. I know that guy is bad. He had a lover before and that wowan still cause a lot problem now for the compnay. She is appreantly chaseing my wife. And I can feel that my wife, at least emotionaly, has some dependence on him.
My question is:
1. Do you guy thinks my wife has, at least, an emtionaly affir with him?
2. Should I push her to quit the job? It is not easy for her to find a job. But the idea that they work together every day just drive my crazy.
