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Hello everyone
Well I am sans children today and I miss them lke crazy just don't know what to do with my self right now. So lets update shall we. Well the D is going strong no eveidence of it stopping. He would have to put the brakes on and I just don't see that happening. He is to wrapped up with his A partner to see the light. So I guess I am done. But here is the thing Wh acts like we are supose to be all buddy buddy because we have a child together. Yeah right civil is what I manage and if it hasn't anything to do with the kids I don't speak to him.
All I can say is I tried but he didn't want to. I hope this whole mess comes back to bite him in the butt someday. Well anyway he comes to pick up DD2 almost an hour late. And stands in the door like a lost puppy almost as if I was suppose to invite him to have a seat and chat. Not going to happen as long as he is living with the ho. So I have no idea of what his thinking is. I get such mixed signals from him I refuse to even think about it anymore. I am done paying the pice for his failure to be a good partner I am only waiting for my D to final so I can be free of him. But I still get the feeling that he some how feels that he can come back. Am I wrong to feel like I am the back up plan when his fantasy falls apart.
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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Ok, now U are at a point where you have the opportunity to move forwad or stay in the rut created by the WS.
Your choice is?
Your action plan is?
L.
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I will not stay in the rut that he created. But no matter what I still love him and I feel like I am crazy for feeling this way. But right now it is unsafe and unfair of me to lok for another relationship. My focus now is on caring for my girls and making sure we do okay without him. I have an excellent job and get paid well. I have no needs from him but appearently he still has them that need to be met by me and I refuse to meet them for him as long as he is involved with OW(trash). I am moving forward with my life and oneday my decide to date again after the D is final. I just hope that oneday he will realise what a good thing he had. but i feel like he won't as long as he has to face the fact that he was dead wrong in his behavior and tretment of me and the kids.
Tally HO forward we go
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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