Orchid,

You've taken me under your wing and coached me.

I had strayed so far from my original boundaries and instilled self esteem... it took some hard work and personal recovery before i was even able to execute a Plan A...
Then I did it well, I think. And as I began to recover at your coaxing, I started to think again about boundaries to protect myself. I re-discovered my boundaries. I lived them, I voiced them, in a gentle loving manner. They were trampled on.

Plan B was the consequence. Plan B protects my boundaries, my haven. I am in a safe place now. I can stay here for a while. I am physically and financially safe. And now, for the first time in years, I am emotionally and psychologically safe. And what is happening? My spirit is growing!!! There are growing pains. And it can be awkward. But I'm alright and my children are once again thriving.

You know what Orchid? My heart and mind are meeting in the present moment... past and future are beginning to play a lesser role.


And so you vets, lamenting about more positive times on the forum ... I know no other time and I know that you have all been a vital part of my own personal recovery.

So there! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Well LT, not to distract too much from BR's post.... I must say that you are a lady of distinction (sp??) and grace.

I graciously accept that 2X4 you whalloped up against my MB brain. Why? 'Cuz u r right. For those of us here for a few years, we see a trend and it hurts to see new faces in old trends. Maybe like a doctor or nurse who sees sick patients every day.... the drama no longer exists....it is more routine and the answers are too plain to see, too visible that sometimes we lose the skills to show empahty.

As for your progress, it is good to see you getting to those turning points for yourself and your family. Really do appreciate your helping out. Fresh POVs are always welcomed.

See we can all learn here. Sometimes we need a refresher ourselves. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Hugz,
L.

Orchid,
Not really a 2x4, but meant as encouragement for yours!!!
Keep your cattle prods coming at me, my friend!

Many warm, sisterly,
and very respectful hugs...
LT

Learn the value of TIME AND PATIENCE...

I'm going to add this to my THOUGHTS THREAD...

SO TRUE.....

I loved your last post, BR...

I AGREE WHOLEHEARTEDLY...

I agree, of course it takes time to come to the point of acceptance. And I don't "[censored]"u"me" for one second that my case is any worse then anyone else's. There's always someone that's had a lot more pain and tragedy to endure besides "poor little me." But then ... there's such a thing as wallowing in it; living in the solution eliminates the problem, and it's my responsibility to decide whether or not to do that ... or to take my sweet time wallowing in it.

In my case, it's very important to choose how I will spend my time; life is short ... and precious if I take the actions necessary to make life mean so to me. Complaining gets me nowhere if I'm not going to make a decision.