I am a ww, I read these posts looking for hope and I end my reading more depressed than before I start.

Is there anyone out there with a true success story of recovery from an affair?

I know life is never really the same-the pain is always ther lingering but are we all just spinning our wheels?

Im sure Im not the only one out there who is wondering if we aren't just perpetuating the hurt by holding on- remaining in each others lives- a constant reminder of the devastating events that put a divide that can never truely be mended.

I wonder if it wouldn't just be better for us to go our seperate ways-learn from our mistakes and start over fresh -a new life,not with the op but on our own to heal and have some peace.

Please if there is someone out there who has a success story-share it -give the rest of us something to hold on to and give the discouraged some hope.

i believe my FWW are on hte way ot true recovery. things get better every single day. the lessons we have learned here have improved our relationship greatly in just a few short months. I could be being overoptimistic, but I see us recovering fully.

hope this fulfills your request at least partially.

We are 10 years recovered. We are VERY happy! We have skills we never had before to keep the marriage healthy. It was a drawn out process. Lot's of ups and downs. Many times I thought about quitting. I decided I would NOT QUIT until I had no more lessons to learn <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

well ... I'm still learning

and no matter what the eventual outcome of your marriage ... you have personal relationship shortcomings that you need to fix yourself .... might as well do your side of the repairing to the very best of your ability

and NO recovery is possible if you are still in contact with OM .... you're not, right?

YES!!! We are five years recovered! Too much to explain though, but you are welcome to click on my username and then select the option "review posts by this user" or however it's referred. You'll find a lot of our information there.

Five years recovered here!! Marriage is actually stronger than before the affair. I'm not saying I would choose to learn this stuff in this way....but none the less....we are better off for it.

catb, this place is full of folks whose marriages are happily recovered; marriage that are better today than before the affair. There are many "true" success stories around here. In fact, most marriages don't split up from adultery and do just fine.

We are five years recovered last month and our marriage is fabulous. He calls me his "soulmate" and I call him my "cute and handsome" H. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

It is so nice to hear from those that are recovered. I didn't realize Pep and Melody had been recovered so long. All of you recoverees are truly heros. To keep posting to help us newbies with advice and support, when you are way beyond needing this board, is quite commendable.

Thank you so much.

Catb,

My wife (Mrs. Wondering) and I are happily recovered. We are still working on things in recovery but resentment/bitterness are way behind me. Our marriage is already better than it ever was before her affair and I am thankful everyday that we are still together. She was way fogged out there for awhile and WE were delivered here by the grace of God. Be patient and have faith, once your fog completely clears your marriage will get better too.

Got to go shower...we got a date...going to an irish pub...What do you do with a drunken sailor???

Mr. Wondering

Wow-the discouraged have hope again!!! Thank you all for sharing.

CatB

H and I may not be 100% recovered - but I believe we are about 90% of the way there...and we are dealing with two affairs - mine and his.

It's hard work, and alot of change and rethinking, etc - but so worth it.

i have no doubt my H and I will grow old together...and infedelity wont touch us again with the changes we have made.