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BS me 38
WH 34
OW 28
DDay-03/17/04
M 10 yrs
DS 10, DD, 7
OW and WH broke up Aug 07
WH home ...Nothings changed no remorse I hate everyminute of him being home I want out!!!!
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"don't you love me?"
I'm in a bad place right now --
"Why?"
You have ruined my heart and now you are ruining me financially.
D**n and goodbye.
~~~~~~~~~~ well, gotta hand it to ya ... this was short, honest and to the point .....
makes me think of famous movie line You can't handle the truth
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tdr -
Hi! Glad to hear from you even if it is sucky news. What was your WH expecting?? I am proud of you for not saying you wanted him to come over. This is all about you and you getting stronger. I am so sorry that he is messing you up so badly financially as well.
You will get through this. Can you get anything moving along with selling one of the properties so you will have less stress financially??
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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PS ... very nice photo ! YOU are beautiful <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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(((tdr)))
Sounds like you're having an awful time. I didn't know you're juggling 3 mortgages. Wish I knew what to tell you...
Good job, though, being short and to the point with your WH on the phone. Isn't that odd how taking the emotion out of the equation makes things easier? I've found that to be the case myself.
(Formerly SadMommy05)
BS, 29 (me)
XH, 27
DD, 1
M, 2001 high school sweethearts
OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06 
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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Thanks pep
The emotion is out of the eye-talin.
tdr
BS me 38
WH 34
OW 28
DDay-03/17/04
M 10 yrs
DS 10, DD, 7
OW and WH broke up Aug 07
WH home ...Nothings changed no remorse I hate everyminute of him being home I want out!!!!
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Thanks Sad
Thankfully I'm an accountant so I juggle for my company and in my life. I don't know how I do it sometimes. I'm afraid something is going to fall soon.
Thanks Kim
I'm glad to have you guys around. And good going about the tax check -- you are soo strong, I would have crumbled.
tdr
BS me 38
WH 34
OW 28
DDay-03/17/04
M 10 yrs
DS 10, DD, 7
OW and WH broke up Aug 07
WH home ...Nothings changed no remorse I hate everyminute of him being home I want out!!!!
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tdr,
Reading your story breaks my heart. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Wow tdr, gotta hand it to you..... you certainly kept it short and sweet. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> You got it right when you said that keeping the emotion out of it made it easier. Hard t/d for many of us but you are showing the benefits of doing so. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Keep up the good work. Now the puzzling part to me is why would you feel it necessary to pay for the OW's utilities? I mean if they can't pay for their own, why should they be living there? Just wondering. take care, L.
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Tdr, Howa' doin'? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> L.
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